142: Loving Bravely – How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship – with Alexandra Solomon

142: Loving Bravely – How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship – with Alexandra Solomon

May 18, 2018 | Relationship Alive

What power do you have to change your relationship for the better by working on yourself? If things aren’t going so well, how do you know if you’ve done “all you can do” – or if there’s still hope? As you know, relationships require a balance of learning the skills of relating to others AND doing your own work to bring yourself more fully to your connection. On today’s episode, you’re going to learn how to find that balance, along with some ways to take both your inner growth and your outer skills to the next level. Our guest is Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Along with her “Marriage and Intimacy 101” course at Northwestern University, Alexandra Solomon has taken relationship education to a new level – with practical ways to help you uplevel your abilities in relationship. The tools that we present in today’s episode will ensure that you’re on the right track as you move forward on your relationship journey.

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141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? – with Neil Sattin

141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? – with Neil Sattin

May 10, 2018 | Relationship Alive

How do you know if your relationship is healthy? Does having problems mean that your relationship isn’t healthy? And how do you promote the health of your relationship? In this week’s episode, Neil Sattin answers these questions so that you can quickly get a sense of what’s going on in your relationship – and, if you decide that things aren’t healthy, exactly what to do to get back on track.

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140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation – Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz

140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation – Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz

May 3, 2018 | Relationship Alive

How do you do the work of true inner transformation? If there are parts of you that are getting in the way – of intimacy, of thriving, of living in integrity – then you’re going to have a tough time realizing the full potential of your life and your relationships. However, you have everything you need inside of you – if you know how to access it! In today’s conversation, we’re getting a return visit from Dick Schwartz, creator of Internal Family Systems. We’ll be exploring this powerful way of finding your core resourcefulness – which he calls “Self” energy – and using it to help heal and grow the parts within you that are holding you back, or interfering with your vibrancy and effectiveness. You’ll learn how to identify the different parts within you, and the roles that they are playing, and you’ll also get a taste of what it’s like to be coming from “Self”. And at the end you will hear Dick Schwartz guide me through an actual journey of identifying a part that’s been impacting me in the here and now – and you’ll hear how he works with me, and that part, to heal and transform. It’s powerful, and vulnerable, and all here for you to experience on this week’s episode of the Relationship Alive podcast.

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139: Change Your Pattern – How to BE an Invitation

139: Change Your Pattern – How to BE an Invitation

Apr 25, 2018 | Relationship Alive

How do you invite someone into your world, your truth, your desires? When you have a complaint, how do you invite someone to the table about it in a way where they WANT to respond and help make things right? And, most importantly, how do you invite someone to be who they truly are? Today’s show is all about how to “be an invitation”, and whether you’re in a relationship, or single and looking to connect, the art of being an invitation can completely transform how you connect with another person. By the end of today’s episode, you will have clear strategies to figure out how to improve your connection with the people in your life who matter most.

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138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship – with Marnia Robinson – from the Archives

138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship – with Marnia Robinson – from the Archives

Apr 18, 2018 | Relationship Alive

Are your orgasms getting in the way of your close connection with your partner? Conventional wisdom says that more orgasms = better – but the truth might actually be quite the opposite. The good news is that there are ways that you can have sex with your partner, and foster intimacy, that seem to avoid the pitfalls that orgasms can create. In order to explain, my guest today is Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships.

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137: Calling in The One – No Matter Your Status – with Katherine Woodward Thomas

137: Calling in The One – No Matter Your Status – with Katherine Woodward Thomas

Apr 11, 2018 | Relationship Alive

How do you align with your vision for love and call it into your life? What’s holding you back from experiencing what you want? Whether you’re single and looking, or in a relationship and wondering what’s keeping you from making it even better, today’s episode is for you. Our guest is my friend, colleague, and mentor Katherine Woodward Thomas, bestselling author of Calling in The One and the New York Times bestseller Conscious Uncoupling. In this conversation, Katherine and I will take you on an inner journey, so that you can uncover your unconscious blocks to love and magnetize yourself for attracting exactly what you want in your relationship. She’s also about to launch a new training for Calling in The One coaches, which we’ll talk about towards the end of our conversation. Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work is profoundly transformative – something that I’ve experienced personally, and I’m delighted to be able to share it with you so you can experience it for yourself.

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136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

Apr 4, 2018 | Relationship Alive

What’s one of the most important factors in determining the success of your relationship? I’ll give you a hint: it’s something to do with how you and your partner get your needs met. The good news is – there’s actually a lot of power in your hands, if you know what you’re doing (and how to do it). If you ever feel like you’re not quite getting your needs met, or that you and your partner are getting stuck, then this Relationship Action Step could make all the difference. And if you’re looking for something practical to help you be even more successful in your relationship, with more energy and passion for each other, then this episode is definitely for you.

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135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding – with Deborah Tannen

135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding – with Deborah Tannen

Mar 27, 2018 | Relationship Alive

How does the way that you communicate affect your ability to connect, and be understood? Can you change your communication style to become a more effective communicator? We don’t all use language the same way, and in today’s episode, we’re going to see exactly how those differences play out in our interactions with the people we care about most. And by the end of the conversation, you’ll have some strategies for bridging the communication gap in any situation when things aren’t going quite as you had planned. Our guest is Deborah Tannen, Georgetown Professor and author of You Just Don’t Understand, the classic book on gender differences in communication. Her latest book, You’re the Only One I Can Tell, is about the language of friendships between women. Deborah Tannen’s specialty is how we use language – and identifying exactly where differences in the way that we communicate connect us, and get in our way

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134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust – What to Do – with Neil Sattin

134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust – What to Do – with Neil Sattin

Mar 20, 2018 | Relationship Alive

Is it ever a good idea to snoop? Do you suspect that your partner is keeping secrets from you? Or are you being “snooped upon” and wondering what to do about it? How do you rebuild trust? In today's episode, we're going to dive deep on the topic of snooping, and secrets, in your relationship. What do you do if you feel like snooping is the only way to get information about what's going on with your partner? How do you rebuild openness and honesty in your relationship? I'll answer all of those questions as we continue the conversation about how to promote “the truth” in your relationship.

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133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns

133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns

Mar 14, 2018 | Relationship Alive

The way that you think creates the way you feel. If you have great thoughts then no problem, but if your thoughts are a little distorted, then…look out! Wouldn’t it be great if there were an easy way to look at your thoughts…and change them? As it turns out – there is! In today’s conversation we are going to show you how to identify the kinds of thoughts that lead to depression, anxiety, shame, anger, and self-doubt – and talk about the process that you can go through to eliminate those thoughts for good. Our guest is Dr. David Burns, author of the acclaimed bestseller Feeling Good and one of the leading popularizers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). He is also the creator of TEAM therapy, which takes CBT to the next level. Today, David Burns and I are tackling the topic of “cognitive distortions” – the messed-up thinking that can get you stuck in negative emotions. By the end of today’s episode you’ll not only be able to spot the times when your thinking gets distorted, but you’ll know what to do about it so that you can “feel good”.

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    April 15, 2018 by shan96kb from United States

    I love this podcast. I learn something every episode. Thanks Neil!

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    April 8, 2018 by Love Your Podcast! from United States

    Thanks so much for all the wonderful therapist on your podcast. You truly are an amazing interviewer and have awesome therapist who truly offer great advise and tangible ways to improve oneself and our most intimate relationships. My significant other and I have enjoyed and grown as a more spiritually evolved couple by listening to your wonderful podcast. We have listened to “ALL” of your podcast. Looking forward to many more 🙂 Thank you again! Hats off to you!! Paola & Alex 💕

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    March 30, 2018 by Richbabe71 from Australia

    I have found this series of podcasts to be a real gem. Neil's approach to interviewing, his guests and the information presented make this an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve their relationships with their partner and indeed all relationships. It has helped me on many levels and I urge anybody considering downloading to give it a go. I am really grateful it's available.

  • Literally saved my marriage!!!
    February 28, 2018 by The Bint from United States

    This podcast is a treasure trove of relationship advice & resources! No New Age love gurus with gimmicky advice. Every guest has years, even decades of research to back them up. But your relationship doesn't have to be on the rocks in order to benefit from this podcast. The focus of this show is growth, for the individuals & for the relationship. Nearly every episode has mind-blowing revelations & yet when you think about it, it's all very intuitive.

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    February 22, 2018 by RachD315 from United States

    Thank you Neil!