It can be easy to avoid being judgmental with people that aren’t close to you, but what do you do when you feel yourself getting critical or testing the people with whom you’re the most vulnerable? How do you shift from judging back to connection? How do you deal with the pain that you might uncover when you own the fears at the heart of being judgmental? And what are some realistic expectations to have around the process of grieving? In this week’s episode I answer YOUR questions as a followup to a few of our earlier episodes.
How do we heal ourselves, our relationships, and the world we live in – all at once? How has our society created rifts within us (and between us) that get in the way of fulfilling relationships? With indigenous wisdom that has been handed down over thousands of years, today’s guest will help you heal the splits in your life and develop deeper integrity. Her name is Sherri Mitchell, and she is the author of “Sacred Instructions: Indigenous Wisdom for Living Spirit-Based Change”. A member of the Penobscot Nation, Sherri has also been actively involved with indigenous rights and environmental justice for more than 25 years. Instead of turning a blind eye to the ways that our cultural legacy gets in the way of connection and healing, today we will walk together down a practical path of truth, healing, and spirit.
How do you heal after a breakup or divorce? Whether you’re going through a breakup now, have been through a breakup and still have some cleanup work to do, or…well…maybe you will be going through a breakup at some point in the future…this episode is for you. No matter which way you slice it – the ending of a relationship can be challenging. There are a lot of “right” ways to heal your heart – and some wrong ways. My goal is to keep you from making common post-breakup mistakes so that you don’t make it any harder on yourself than it has to be – and we’ll dispel some myths along the way.
Do you judge others or yourself harshly? How do you get past the judgment to a place where you can see a situation clearly, set appropriate boundaries, and change things for the better? In this week’s episode, we’re going to cover what to do when your occasionally judgmental nature gets in the way of positive connections with others – or yourself. You’ll get some hints about what to do when others are judging you. And you’ll discover the difference between being discerning and being judgmental.
What turns you on – and what turns you off? Once you know your erotic blueprint type, it’s so much easier to have the kind of intimacy that you most deeply desire. And when you hit a snag in the sexual sphere of your relationship, it could be that you and your partner haven’t quite learned each other’s erotic languages – leading to sexual miscommunication. Never mind the love languages – it’s the Erotic Blueprint type that matters in the sexual domain! This week’s episode features Ian Ferguson, who played an instrumental role in creating the Erotic Blueprint methodology with his partner Jaiya. You’ll learn the 5 Erotic Blueprint types, how to figure out what you are, and how to tackle differences that you and your partner might have in how you express yourselves in your most intimate moments.
While some kind of issue is going to be at the heart of every breakup, how do you get past the issues and create a breakup that’s kind, generous, and respectful? How do you find compassion and understanding within the pain and grief? When it comes to conscious uncoupling, or divorce, are there ways to make the process easier on yourself and your soon-to-be-ex partner? In today’s episode we confront whether or not breaking up has to be a shitshow – or can it be something that’s easeful despite the pain that’s inherent in the process.
What do you do when you're suffering? How do you escape patterns of blaming in your relationship, and find the place within you that can turn painful moments into growth, and transformation? And how do you know when you've experienced too much pain – when it's time to move on? This week, we’re having a return visit with Guy Finley, author of the new book Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together and the international bestseller The Secret of Letting Go.
For quite awhile now I’ve been mentioning that there have been some challenges and changes going on in my life. This week, I’m going to share some of that with you. I’ve waited awhile for the timing to be right, so please take a moment and join me for a glimpse into my world and all that’s been happening.
With all the focus on ways to improve your relationship, growth and change can become something of an obsession. Especially if things are painful! However, sometimes all the efforts to change can create even more problems. So…it’s helpful to know when it’s time to just…stop. There are particular ways of “stopping” that can actually be beneficial – to your health and the health of your relationship. In this episode, I give you three specific ways to “stop” that can potentially jumpstart the “flow” in your relationship – especially if things have gotten stuck. It’s a little edgy (particularly my third suggestion) – but can sometimes be exactly what you need.
Ever feel like there’s a little too much drama in your life? Well, if that’s the case, then you probably have been caught in the Drama Triangle. If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle then be prepared – you’re going to start seeing it EVERYWHERE. Today you’ll learn how to spot it – and even better, how to escape it. Our guest is Dr. Stephen Karpman, the creator of the Drama Triangle, and author of the recent book “A Game-Free Life: The Definitive Book on the Drama Triangle and the Compassion Triangle” – which explains how to spot the sources of drama and dysfunction – and what to do to break the cycle. Along the way, you’ll also get clear tips on improved communication, how to deepen intimacy, and what agreements are essential to maintain in any relationship.
February 8, 2020 by Kendra Charts from United States
I recently started listening to this podcast and found Neil's transparency about his own life and relationship honest, real and relatable. I loved the podcast episode about judgement and found it so helpful how he offered strategies and walked the listener through it step by step. By the end of the episode I had several perspective shifts and insighful reflections. Highly recommend!
Thank you sincerely from me heart
December 17, 2019 by The Fwa Fwa from United States
So much gratitude for all that Neil and his guests offer to all of us wanting to better our relationships and in that our lives!!
I feel like my relationships have done a 180 and in large part to the many helpful and vulnerable sharings on this show.
I have read many books from many of the guest on this podcast. Highly suggest it. I found out a lot more about myself in that. And was able to find healing in surprising places.
I have found Neil’s personal life sharings an incredibly helpful tool. A feeling of not alone, a hopefulness to change and in that, know myself better. I have been inspired to meet my fear in honest relationship, even if it causes me pain.
Thank you Neil, thank you for for being vulnerable, growing and sharing your journey ☺️
July 29, 2019 by lolkjt92 from United States
This is my first time listening to this podcast. I was activity searching for something like this in efforts to have a healthy, intimate, real relationship and this gem happened to pop up! I have to say Neil really does have such amazing content on here. I am sooooo grateful for this podcast, it has helped me immensely with communication with my partner and I have to give this podcast credit for helping me pave such a respectful path for my new relationship. I am spreading the word and I am excited to keep learning and growing! Thank you Neil! I recently downloaded the free guide for secret tips on communication and I am soo eager to read it!
My partner and I are using many of the tools I learned here. If you have a chance listen to relationship Alive! You won’t regret it 🧡
Love it! But.
July 8, 2019 by Akmommaof2 from United States
I love almost all of the podcasts!! My only complaint is when he switched to putting his adds in the middle of everything after you’re engaged, tends to throw me off! Not sure about everyone else?
Not a Substitute for Therapy but Pretty Dang Close
July 4, 2019 by FreeziePop from United States
As a therapist myself, I use this as supplemental to my partner’s and my couple’s counseling with positive outcomes. Well produced show with extremely knowledgeable and well known/renowned guests (in the mental health field).