104: How to Get What You Need – Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers

104: How to Get What You Need – Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers

Do you feel like there are some things that you just can’t ask for? How do you get what you truly need in relationship? And how do you navigate to true win/win solutions in a relationship where you and your partner feel excited by what you’ve created together, instead of feeling drained by compromise? In today’s episode, you’re going to learn a unique approach to getting your needs met, and getting your partner’s needs met. Instead of using a psychological approach, today’s guest, Max Rivers, is going to show you how to use the skills of mediation to breathe new life into your connection. In addition, through Max’s unique application of Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (which he calls “Embodied Nonviolent Communication”), you’ll discover another secret ingredient to effective communication within your relationship. Max Rivers is a trained mediator who teaches these skills to couples in a series of six classes. His forthcoming new book, Tired of the Same Old Argument, makes his concepts easy to understand and put into practice. And, of course, I’m excited to introduce him to you!

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103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?

103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?

How do you know if you’re being codependent? What happens if, in the process of trying NOT to be codependent, you stop considering your partner? How do you find the balance? And what is the antidote for resentment in a relationship? In this week’s episode of Relationship Alive with Neil Sattin, you’ll discover the essential difference between being codependent and being considerate – and you’ll learn how to find even more freedom AND connection with your partner.

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102: How to Evolve Your Relationship with Jeff Zeig

102: How to Evolve Your Relationship with Jeff Zeig

How do you grow into something new and greater with your partner? How do you foster feelings of love, passion and connection – no matter how long you’ve been together? How do you evolve beyond what you even know to be possible for yourself in relationship? This week we welcome Dr. Jeffrey Zeig to the Relationship Alive podcast. He has authored and/or co-authored more than twenty books on psychotherapy, and he is the architect of the Evolution of Psychotherapy conference, one of the most important conferences for therapeutic professionals. His work is on the cutting edge of helping us evolve what we know about what’s possible in the science of helping people change, as he is in a unique position to survey the entire landscape of what people are doing in the field of couples therapy.

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101: A User Manual for You

101: A User Manual for You

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How do you know what you *really* want in relationship? And how can you help your partner truly understand what makes you tick – so that they can speak the language of love in ways that are meaningful for you? In this week’s episode, we cover a way for you to not only help your partner show up for you – but also for you to discover hidden truths about what you truly desire. Learn how to create the first draft of your Love Map (as John Gottman calls it) – the User Manual for You.

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100: Attraction – How to Sustain It and How to Revive It – with John Gottman and Sue Johnson

100: Attraction – How to Sustain It and How to Revive It – with John Gottman and Sue Johnson

How do you sustain attraction in your relationship over the long term? What can you do if you no
longer feel “the spark” with your partner? And, what can you do if your partner no longer feels
attracted to you? ​In today’s episode, we’re going to cover the mysterious force that brings us
together when it’s there (and sometimes tears us apart when it’s not there): Attraction. And to
celebrate the 100th episode of the Relationship Alive podcast, we are joined by two very special
guests: John Gottman AND Sue Johnson. John Gottman and Sue Johnson have both been with
us here on the podcast before, and our conversation today will reveal to you some surprising,
well-researched truths about what fuels the spark in your relationship.

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99: The Secrets of Scheduling Sex Successfully

99: The Secrets of Scheduling Sex Successfully

Are you too busy for sex and connection? What if sex just isn’t happening, or isn’t happening enough in your relationship? While there are many reasons that this could be happening (or not happening, as the case may be) – sometimes all you have to do is to get it on the calendar. That being said, simply scheduling sex on your calendar isn’t always enough to turn things around. In this week’s episode, we’re going to cover how to schedule sex, why to schedule sex, and…most importantly…how to successfully navigate any pressure, or awkwardness, that comes from putting something so precious…on the calendar.

Along with the secrets of how to schedule sex successfully, you’ll also learn a bit more about how to create intimacy with and without sex, why connection is so important for having an amazing sex life, and the benefits of nurturing your sexual and sensual life with your partner.

Also, get ready for next week, which will be the 100th episode of the Relationship Alive podcast! Joining us next week will two amazing guests – John Gottman AND Sue Johnson – to talk about Attraction. What do you do when attraction vanishes in your relationship? How do you sustain the attraction and spark that you have? The answers to these questions (and more) about attraction might surprise you, so be sure to tune in next week as well to hear what emerges in my conversations with John Gottman and Sue Johnson.

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98: How to Stop Being a Victim – Feeling Good Together with David Burns

98: How to Stop Being a Victim – Feeling Good Together with David Burns

When it comes to the success of your relationship, how much are you standing in your own way? How do you get really clear on your part in the dynamic? And how do you work some magic in the way that you communicate, to connect no matter how challenging the moment? Joining us this week is Dr. David Burns, a Stanford emeritus professor who is also the author of Feeling Good – one of the most popular self-help books (dealing with depression) of all time. He is one of the chief popularizers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and has recently been developing TEAM therapy, which addresses some of CBT’s shortcomings. David Burns is also the author of Feeling Good Together, which applies his practical approach to relationships: how to thrive, as well as how to turn a troubled relationship around.

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A Brief Interlude

A Brief Interlude

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Find out what’s in store for the upcoming 100th episode of the Relationship Alive podcast! Also, this week is an opportunity for you to get caught up on episodes you’ve missed, or to revisit ones that have had an impact on you. Looking forward to seeing you next week with David Burns, author of Feeling Good and Feeling Good Together.

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97: How to Enlist Your Friends to Support Your Relationship

97: How to Enlist Your Friends to Support Your Relationship

There’s nothing quite as powerful to help you on your journey as the community of friends that surround you. However, our friends aren’t always clear on how to do that – particularly when it comes to your relationship. How do you enlist your friends to support you in your partnership? In today’s episode, you’ll discover a sweet way to create a moment of deep connection with your partner, and to show your friends exactly how they can help you and your partner nurture your connection. If you’re single, this practice will show you how you can harness the energy of your community to keep you on track in life – and in your quest for right relationship (if you’re looking for that).

Along with strengthening your relationship, this practice will also help you strengthen your connection to your friends!

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96: How to Transform the Hidden Beliefs that Hold You Back with Katherine Woodward Thomas

96: How to Transform the Hidden Beliefs that Hold You Back with Katherine Woodward Thomas

How do you stop repeating the old beliefs and actions that are holding you back? How do you ensure that the core part of your inner guidance is sending you in a positive direction? If you find yourself doing the same old dance again and again – either with your current partner, or in relationship after relationship, then this is the episode for you. Joining us is Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of the NYT Bestseller Conscious Uncoupling, as well as the bestseller Calling in the One, as a guide through a powerful process of self-discovery. We dive deep into a core part of her work, the “secret sauce” that has helped Katherine transform the lives of so many people worldwide.

Katherine Woodward Thomas has been on Relationship Alive a couple times previously. If you’re interested in hearing our other episodes together, they are:

Ep 21: Healing Pain from Past or Present Breakups

Ep 3: Overcoming Your Barriers to Love and Connection

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    August 21, 2017 by Bachittar from Germany

    I have listened to so many podcast and they are brilliant. I love the style and Neil does a great job. He is really a brilliant person and super alive. And I am so happy that we have learnt a lot from him. You really need to listen to it 🙂

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    August 9, 2017 by J3808 from United States

    I've learned so much from this podcast. The things I've learned are applicable in my relationships with everyone, not just my spouse. He has a great soothing voice too!

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    I love this podcast! Thank you Neil for all the wonderful guests you bring onto your show and the thoughtful questions you present as well as your own tips and insights. This is such important and valuable information to share, so thank you for putting it out there. For myself personally it’s so nice to be able to work on my computer and simultaneously be absorbing positive, educational information, which is helping me through this challenging but important time in my life. I like your musical intro too:) Keep it up!

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    The best podcast on relationships that I've found, and I've searched the depths of the Internet!