149: Getting Back Together with an Ex – Should You? How to do it right.

149: Getting Back Together with an Ex – Should You? How to do it right.

hould you get back together with your ex? How do you know if it’s a good idea? And, once you’ve decided that it’s a good idea, how do you get back together with the best chance of succeeding? Let’s face it – things didn’t work out the first time around. What can you do to prevent history from repeating itself? In today’s episode, I’ll give you the exact questions to ask (yourself, AND your ex) that will help you figure out whether or not it’s a good idea. And then we’ll cover what to do to increase your chances of getting it right this time around. Along the way, you’ll learn great questions to ask yourself before you enter into ANY new relationship – or how to create a structure to support the relationship that you’re currently in.

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148: How to Strengthen the Safety and Resilience of Your Relationship – with Gabrielli LaChiara

148: How to Strengthen the Safety and Resilience of Your Relationship – with Gabrielli LaChiara

What are some practical ways to build safety in your relationship? To get back to love when you’re in conflict? And to create such a solid background of safety and positive energy in your relationship that you can withstand the inevitable bumps along the way? One of the most important skills for you to develop is the ability to come back when things go a bit off-the-rails. In today’s episode, we’re going to give you a tool to help you when times are challenging – and to put even more positive energy in the relationship bank account when things are going well – or even just neutral. Our guest is Gabrielli LaChiara, a teacher and friend whose work has been fundamental in the growth of my own relationship, as well as my coaching and healing work with clients. In our conversation today, Gabrielli blends some of the techniques of Howard Glasser’s Nurtured Heart approach with her own Infinity Healing practice to give you something you can start doing right away to boost your relationship.

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147: A Simple, Radical Way to Improve Your Ability to Connect

147: A Simple, Radical Way to Improve Your Ability to Connect

What’s stopping you from having the kind of connection with others that you want? Whether you’re in a relationship and feeling stuck with your partner, or single and wondering how to connect with someone amazing – today’s episode is for you. You’re going to learn a simple way to shift how you interact with others that will open you up to a much more alive, dynamic, exciting way to connect. You’ll also know how to recognize when it’s time to make a boundary and NOT connect.

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146: How and Why to Have a Good Divorce – with Constance Ahrons

146: How and Why to Have a Good Divorce – with Constance Ahrons

What’s the recipe for a successful divorce? If you’ve tried everything, and it’s time to separate or get divorced – how do you do it well, so that you (and your soon-to-be-ex) emerge relatively unscathed? And if you have children, how do you ensure that they are also not traumatized by the process? In this week’s episode, our guest is Dr. Constance Ahrons, one of the world’s leading experts in how to navigate divorce well. Her book, The Good Divorce was a groundbreaking work that studied the effects of divorce on children – and identified exactly what kinds of post-divorce relationships had the best outcomes. In my conversation with Dr. Ahrons, you’ll learn exactly what to do, what not to do, and how to salvage a situation that’s already not going well.

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145: Core Relationship Principles #3 – Fostering Curiosity and Dismantling Limiting Stories – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

145: Core Relationship Principles #3 – Fostering Curiosity and Dismantling Limiting Stories – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

How do you stay curious in your relationship? And how do you get rid of the stories that you tell yourself – about your partner (or about yourself) – that are holding you back? This is the third episode of our “Core Relationship Principles” series. Chloe Urban and I show you exactly how to know when it’s time to bring your curiosity back online, how to identify when a “story” is getting in your way, and what to do to make the shift. Some stories can empower you, for sure – but the more that you’re able to get out of you story and into reality, the better your relationship will be. After listening to this episode, you’ll have some solid strategies for infusing your relationship with curiosity and the powerful truth of “what is”.

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144: Extreme Self Care for a Healthy Relationship – with Cheryl Richardson

144: Extreme Self Care for a Healthy Relationship – with Cheryl Richardson

Have you ever felt like everyone else’s needs come first? Have you wondered how you’re supposed to show up in your relationship, or for your family, if you’re exhausted and not feeling nourished and supported yourself? How do you make the shift so that you feel full enough to have something extra to offer those around you? In today’s episode, we’re going to cover the art of Extreme Self Care – so that you can learn how to make boundaries and take better care of yourself (and why that’s so important for the health of your relationship). Our guest is Cheryl Richardson, professional coach and New York Times Bestselling author of several books, including Take Time for Your Life, and her most recent book, Waking Up in Winter. Cheryl Richardson was literally one of the first professional coaches, and her decades of experience will help you reclaim your life, find your center, and bring your best self to your relationships

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143: Mismatched Sex Drive? What To Do.

143: Mismatched Sex Drive? What To Do.

What do you do if you want to have sex more than your partner? Or if your partner wants to have sex more than you do? Differences in sexual desire can create so many problems in a relationship, and in today’s episode we tackle this topic head-on. There’s something here for you no matter which side of the equation you’re on. Here’s a hint: typically, when differences in sex drive become “the issue” – there’s actually something else going on. Or even several “something elses”. I’m going to help you figure out what they are in your relationship, and find your way to a balance around sex that feels great to both you and your partner. Along the way, you’ll figure out if it’s really about a difference in libido – or if there’s something standing in the way of your having the kind of sexual connection with your partner that you desire.

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142: Loving Bravely – How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship – with Alexandra Solomon

142: Loving Bravely – How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship – with Alexandra Solomon

What power do you have to change your relationship for the better by working on yourself? If things aren’t going so well, how do you know if you’ve done “all you can do” – or if there’s still hope? As you know, relationships require a balance of learning the skills of relating to others AND doing your own work to bring yourself more fully to your connection. On today’s episode, you’re going to learn how to find that balance, along with some ways to take both your inner growth and your outer skills to the next level. Our guest is Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Along with her “Marriage and Intimacy 101” course at Northwestern University, Alexandra Solomon has taken relationship education to a new level – with practical ways to help you uplevel your abilities in relationship. The tools that we present in today’s episode will ensure that you’re on the right track as you move forward on your relationship journey.

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141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? – with Neil Sattin

141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? – with Neil Sattin

How do you know if your relationship is healthy? Does having problems mean that your relationship isn’t healthy? And how do you promote the health of your relationship? In this week’s episode, Neil Sattin answers these questions so that you can quickly get a sense of what’s going on in your relationship – and, if you decide that things aren’t healthy, exactly what to do to get back on track.

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140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation – Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz

140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation – Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz

How do you do the work of true inner transformation? If there are parts of you that are getting in the way – of intimacy, of thriving, of living in integrity – then you’re going to have a tough time realizing the full potential of your life and your relationships. However, you have everything you need inside of you – if you know how to access it! In today’s conversation, we’re getting a return visit from Dick Schwartz, creator of Internal Family Systems. We’ll be exploring this powerful way of finding your core resourcefulness – which he calls “Self” energy – and using it to help heal and grow the parts within you that are holding you back, or interfering with your vibrancy and effectiveness. You’ll learn how to identify the different parts within you, and the roles that they are playing, and you’ll also get a taste of what it’s like to be coming from “Self”. And at the end you will hear Dick Schwartz guide me through an actual journey of identifying a part that’s been impacting me in the here and now – and you’ll hear how he works with me, and that part, to heal and transform. It’s powerful, and vulnerable, and all here for you to experience on this week’s episode of the Relationship Alive podcast.

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    May 29, 2018 by monicajacobsiam from United States

    Please know I looooove your podcast !!!!

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    April 15, 2018 by shan96kb from United States

    I love this podcast. I learn something every episode. Thanks Neil!

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    April 8, 2018 by Love Your Podcast! from United States

    Thanks so much for all the wonderful therapist on your podcast. You truly are an amazing interviewer and have awesome therapist who truly offer great advise and tangible ways to improve oneself and our most intimate relationships. My significant other and I have enjoyed and grown as a more spiritually evolved couple by listening to your wonderful podcast. We have listened to “ALL” of your podcast. Looking forward to many more 🙂 Thank you again! Hats off to you!! Paola & Alex 💕

  • Excellent resource. Wonderful stuff.
    March 30, 2018 by Richbabe71 from Australia

    I have found this series of podcasts to be a real gem. Neil's approach to interviewing, his guests and the information presented make this an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve their relationships with their partner and indeed all relationships. It has helped me on many levels and I urge anybody considering downloading to give it a go. I am really grateful it's available.

  • Literally saved my marriage!!!
    February 28, 2018 by The Bint from United States

    This podcast is a treasure trove of relationship advice & resources! No New Age love gurus with gimmicky advice. Every guest has years, even decades of research to back them up. But your relationship doesn't have to be on the rocks in order to benefit from this podcast. The focus of this show is growth, for the individuals & for the relationship. Nearly every episode has mind-blowing revelations & yet when you think about it, it's all very intuitive.