255: How to Be Courageous (especially when it’s hard)

255: How to Be Courageous (especially when it’s hard)

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It’s easy to talk about being courageous – but how do you actually take action when it feels like a huge risk? Whether it’s the decision to enter a relationship, or to leave a relationship, or all of the moments within a relationship when you might have to make a choice that feels a little edgy or scary – today’s episode is going to focus on the practical steps to taking action…courageously. Don’t just “feel the fear and do it anyway” – learn how to prepare yourself so that you stand the best chance of succeeding in a moment that requires your courage.

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254: From a “Fair” Relationship to Radical Generosity – the 80/80 Marriage with Kaley and Nate Klemp

254: From a “Fair” Relationship to Radical Generosity – the 80/80 Marriage with Kaley and Nate Klemp

It’s easy to talk about being generous in your relationship – but how do you actually put it into practice – especially when things feel unfair or out of balance? If you’re stuck in fighting for fairness in your relationship, it’s time to learn a new way of being together where shared success becomes the rule – not the exception. Today we’re talking with Kaley and Nate Klemp, authors of “The 80/80 Marriage – A New Model for a Healthier, Stronger Relationship.” You’ll get practical steps to foster radical generosity in your relationship.

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253: How to Keep Children from Wrecking Your Relationship – The Baby Bomb with Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin

253: How to Keep Children from Wrecking Your Relationship – The Baby Bomb with Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin

How do you keep your relationship strong despite the pressures that child-rearing can create? And how can you leverage your attachment styles in how you show up for each other to improve your relationship along the way?  Our guests are Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin, co-authors of the new book “Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents” – one of the few books that tackles the impact that raising a child can have on your connection. Whether you’re expecting a new baby, or already have children in the mix, today’s episode will give you the tools you need so that you can weather the storms of parenting while celebrating its joys.

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252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict – Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis

252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict – Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis

When you can’t be yourself in your relationship and avoid the tough conversations that you might need to have, it erodes your relationship AND your sense of self. Today we’re going to focus on how to lean into conflict in ways most likely to lead to deeper connection with others as well as inner alignment within yourself. Our guest is Jayson Gaddis, and his new book “Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships” is a masterpiece to level up your conflict-resolution skills.

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251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis – with Pete Pearson

251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis – with Pete Pearson

Are there ways to build trust in your relationship – even if you’re in the middle of a crisis? How do you identify your relationship strengths – and use them in these most challenging moments? Today we have a return visit from Dr. Peter Pearson, co-founder of the Couple’s Institute (along with his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader), and one of today’s leading trainers of couples therapists. Whether you’re in a relationship, or a couples therapist, or both – today’s episode is full of practical wisdom to help navigate the hardest moments that a couple can face.

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250: Start Your Day with Being OK

250: Start Your Day with Being OK

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How do you find the place within you that’s “ok” no matter what? And how do you use that place as a resource to help you handle the things that aren’t ok? In today’s episode I’m going to give you a quick-and-easy way to start your day on the right foot – while at the same time getting a clear look at what just might need to change in your life…without being paralyzed by it. No bypasses here! Just a clear path forward that acknowledges your strengths – while you’re empowered to work on the things that are challenging. 

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249: When You’re the One Doing ALL the Work

249: When You’re the One Doing ALL the Work

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What do you do when you feel like you’re the only one doing the work in your relationship? When things would just fall apart if you weren’t on top of it? Or what can you do if things aren’t going so well, and you’re the only one who seems to care enough to try and make things different? And how do you know when it’s time to stop trying…and walk away? It turns out there are a lot of options available to you – and some of them will probably surprise you!

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248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship?

248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship?

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If your relationship is going to thrive and stand the test of time, then what are the essential ingredients for that to happen? What do you have the “right” to do – and experience – in your relationship? And – like any time that we have rights – what are the responsibilities that go along with those rights? After this week’s episode, you’ll be able to diagnose what’s going well in your relationship – and where important things are missing.

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247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship

247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship

If you have an insecure attachment style (or your partner does – or both of you do) – can you have a healthy relationship? And how do you know if an issue that comes up is something that you’ll actually be able to fix? Avoidant, anxious, island, wave – or secure – sure, it’s helpful to be able to identify your attachment style – but what can you actually do about the unhealthy patterns that arise? Today we’re going to talk about what it really looks like to move from insecure to secure attachment – and how to get out of an unhealthy dynamic into something more positive.

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246: How to Get Honest with Yourself

246: How to Get Honest with Yourself

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Have you ever gone through a major life change, and then, in retrospect, wondered how you could have possibly been living the way that you were living? Everything seemed so great at the time, right? Or, at least, great enough. But when the spell is broken, and the veil is lifted – suddenly everything looks different. Hindsight is 20/20 – and one of life’s biggest challenges is to see things accurately in the moment. In today’s episode you’ll get strategies to get past how you *wish* things were – in order to see things as they actually are.

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  • Yes!!
    March 7, 2022 by hair62 from United States

    I have been looking for a podcast like this for a long time I can’t thank you enough! Thanks again Erin’s

  • Amazing relationship advice whether being single or in a couple
    February 1, 2022 by JaninaCostaRica from Canada

    Hi Neil, you’re really interesting to listen to. I have been listening to your podcast for quite some time, and also went through a breakup while listening to your podcast. It was so moving and yet interesting to hear you going through your own breakup while doing the podcast. It taught me that breakups don’t have to be bad and that not all relationships can be healed. Thanks for what you do. Please keep the podcast coming 🙂 !

  • INSIGHTFUL!
    January 19, 2022 by Mitko I. from Bulgaria

    A ton of value, keep rocking!

  • Insightful
    January 3, 2022 by Cee_Senn from United States

    This is the most insightful relationship podcast I’ve ever listened to. I especially love the episodes that Neil does alone, because it’s his wisdom and depth of knowledge and experience that i think brings so much value. My husband and I are also clients of him, and he is WONDERFUL. Neil is able to see things that one or both of us do not say, and stayed it in a way that we are able to “hear” it and consider change.

  • love this podcast
    October 20, 2021 by sofia.v from Australia

    this podcast have really help me to put things in perpective in many dificults times!