92: Creating New Possibilities from the Inside Out – Erica Ariel Fox

92: Creating New Possibilities from the Inside Out – Erica Ariel Fox

How do you get better at being you? How do you get past the stuck points – that gap between what you know you could/should do – and what you actually do? We have a vast amount of inner resource available to us to help get unstuck and learn new ways of showing up – and today we’re going to bring that resource online. Our guest is Erica Ariel Fox, author of the New York Times Bestseller Winning from Within. Erica is part of the Harvard Negotiation Project, and her book follows up where Difficult Conversations leaves off – addressing that question of “How come this still isn’t working even though I know what I’m supposed to do?” Often, it comes down to the inner work that needs to be done – so that the outer strategies can actually be effective for you.
(if you’re curious – you can listen to our interview with Sheila Heen, one of the authors of Difficult Conversations, here in Episode 59)
So – where do you start when you’re trying to figure out why what ought to be working…isn’t? How do you figure out what parts of you need attention, growth, and development? Let’s dive in!!

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91: The Power of Deep Relating

91: The Power of Deep Relating

How do you get better at being in relationships? How do you create different experiences than you have had in the past (especially after the honeymoon stage has run its course)? How do you continue to deepen the intimacy and joy in your relationship when your attention is being drawn in so many other directions? In this episode, I introduce you to something I call “deeper relating”, and how developing these skills allow you to tap into each other’s creativity and resourcefulness. It’s a key skill in taking your relationship to a completely new place, where you and your partner get to continually discover each other.

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90: Heal Your Relationship at the Deepest Level With Hedy Schleifer

90: Heal Your Relationship at the Deepest Level With Hedy Schleifer

There’s a particularly sticky place that comes up in most relationships. It’s the place where your deep desires meet your partner’s fear and resistance – and vice versa. How do you unravel this dynamic, to experience the magic that lies on the other side? That’s what we’re going to cover in today’s episode with Hedy Schleifer. Hedy, the co-creator of Encounter-centered Couples Therapy, is going to describe what she calls “Unraveling the Survival Knot”. In this process, you get to uncover the gift that lies deep within the core of your relationship. The Survival Knot could seem like an impasse at first, but then it becomes a source of profound connection, growth, understanding, and healing for your relationship.
If you are curious to hear our first episode with Hedy Schleifer, you can listen to it here: Ep 69 – How to Be Completely Alive in Your Relationship. It’s not a prerequisite, but in many ways it sets the stage for today’s episode, so make sure you do check it out.

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89: How to Have a Healthy Long Distance Relationship

89: How to Have a Healthy Long Distance Relationship

What’s the recipe for success in a long distance relationship? How do you stay connected when you’re apart? And how do you handle the times when you’re together so that they’re less intense? In today’s episode, I tackle the topic of how to bring balance to a long distance relationship. My goal is for you to get some new insights into where your relationship might be doing well – and where it could use some help.

What was interesting to me in recording this episode was realizing that so many of these hints are helpful for ANY relationship – even when we’re not separated by miles. In fact, it’s possible that you live your life as if you ARE in a long distance relationship, even if you see your partner every day. In this episode I also answer a listener’s question about what to do when it seems like your partner needs “too much” space.

So whether your relationship is taking place over the miles (or kilometers), or you’re in the same town, or the same bedroom – today’s episode is for you, to help you build connection despite the space, and manage the highs and lows of your togetherness.

If the Relationship Alive podcast is helpful for you and you’d like to ensure that it continues, please consider supporting us through a monthly or one-time donation. You can visit http://www.neilsattin.com/support or text the word “SUPPORT” to 33444 to find out more. Thank you!

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88: Helen Fisher – The Anatomy of Love: What Makes Love Last

88: Helen Fisher – The Anatomy of Love: What Makes Love Last

Why do we love? Is it part of human evolution? What in our biology makes us strive for love and intimacy? And how do we make it last? This week we welcome Dr. Helen Fisher, TED talk all-start and author of Anatomy of Love – A Natural History of Mating, Marriage and Why We Stray. In this episode we dive head first into how long-term partnerships fit into what makes us human – along with some thoughts about breaking up, serial monogamy, and what makes love last. Helen Fisher is the Chief Scientific Advisor to Match.com as well as a Senior Research Fellow at the Kinsey Institute. You’ll appreciate how her knowledge of the science of love can give us the roadmap to long-lasting happiness in relationship.

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86:  Beyond Mars and Venus – Reducing Stress and Improving Nutrition with John Gray

86: Beyond Mars and Venus – Reducing Stress and Improving Nutrition with John Gray

What role does your gender play in how you react to stress? And how does it determine the best ways to recover from stress? And what does it mean in terms of your relationship? The more that you understand your biology, the better you’ll be able to help yourself (and your partner) in the stressful times, and in the not-so-stressful times. In this week’s episode, we’re talking with John Gray, author of the international bestseller

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84: Deepening the Divine in Your Relationship – Andrew Harvey

84: Deepening the Divine in Your Relationship – Andrew Harvey

If you want to take your relationship to the next level, then you have no choice but to connect at a higher level. And I mean a MUCH higher level. How do you bring your connection to the divine, something greater than you, into your relationship? And how do you and your partner take that energy and use it to co-create something amazing in the world? Something that feeds your passion for each other – as well as for life itself? Today we’re going to tackle those questions, and more, with one of the world’s most respected spiritual teachers, Andrew Harvey.

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