Does is seem like the only time that things get intense in your relationship is when negative things happen? This kind of experience, repeated over time, can literally train your brain to be in a hyper-vigilant state when your partner is around. So how can you rewire your brain to experience your partner as intensely positive? And how do you switch from a pattern of complaining to a pattern of wish-granting with your partner? In today’s episode, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to answer these important questions. We cover one particular exercise that you can do with your partner (that Chloe and I experienced in their Getting the Love You Want workshop at Kripalu) that they’ve never talked about in an interview! We also discuss tips from their new book, The Space Between, which offers a succinct explanation of how to apply the fundamental lessons from their work in your relationship.
Additionally, if you’re interested in hearing our first conversation together – Episode 22 – Essential Skills for Conscious Relationship with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt
What’s an amazing source of energy for your relationship? The TRUTH! Are there moments when you’re not telling the full truth? Or does it seem that your partner is holding back? If there’s energy and vitality missing from your connection, it could be that there’s not enough honesty in your relationship. Building on episode 105, where we talked about small changes that can make a big difference in your relationship, in this episode we’re going to talk about how to make small shifts in the way you communicate that will help bring you back into balance with the truth. We’ll also revisit some of the concepts from Episode 24 with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson – on why lying happens in a relationship, and how to tell if you’re actually encouraging your partner to lie to you! All in today’s episode of Relationship Alive!
Are you a “nice guy” – or are you in a relationship with one? While there’s nothing wrong with being nice, it can create problems – especially when you’re so focused on pleasing others that you move further and further away from your true, authentic self. How do you reclaim masculinity without becoming a stereotype? How do you consider others, while still maintaining healthy boundaries? In this episode, we’re talking with Dr. Robert Glover, the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, about how to find a healthy way to uncover your true self – and to bring your authenticity to your life and relationship.
How do you get from where you are now – to where you want to be? If you keep doing more of the same, then you’re going to experience…more of the same. Sometimes, when you’re trying to achieve different results, it does make sense to make BIG changes. However, in today’s episode, we discover how to find the tiny places in your life where you can easily make a shift – the kind of shift that will ripple out into everything else. Once you identify these leverage points, you might find that the bigger changes…take care of themselves.
Do you feel like there are some things that you just can’t ask for? How do you get what you truly need in relationship? And how do you navigate to true win/win solutions in a relationship where you and your partner feel excited by what you’ve created together, instead of feeling drained by compromise? In today’s episode, you’re going to learn a unique approach to getting your needs met, and getting your partner’s needs met. Instead of using a psychological approach, today’s guest, Max Rivers, is going to show you how to use the skills of mediation to breathe new life into your connection. In addition, through Max’s unique application of Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (which he calls “Embodied Nonviolent Communication”), you’ll discover another secret ingredient to effective communication within your relationship. Max Rivers is a trained mediator who teaches these skills to couples in a series of six classes. His forthcoming new book, Tired of the Same Old Argument, makes his concepts easy to understand and put into practice. And, of course, I’m excited to introduce him to you!
How do you know if you’re being codependent? What happens if, in the process of trying NOT to be codependent, you stop considering your partner? How do you find the balance? And what is the antidote for resentment in a relationship? In this week’s episode of Relationship Alive with Neil Sattin, you’ll discover the essential difference between being codependent and being considerate – and you’ll learn how to find even more freedom AND connection with your partner.
How do you grow into something new and greater with your partner? How do you foster feelings of love, passion and connection – no matter how long you’ve been together? How do you evolve beyond what you even know to be possible for yourself in relationship? This week we welcome Dr. Jeffrey Zeig to the Relationship Alive podcast. He has authored and/or co-authored more than twenty books on psychotherapy, and he is the architect of the Evolution of Psychotherapy conference, one of the most important conferences for therapeutic professionals. His work is on the cutting edge of helping us evolve what we know about what’s possible in the science of helping people change, as he is in a unique position to survey the entire landscape of what people are doing in the field of couples therapy.
How do you know what you *really* want in relationship? And how can you help your partner truly understand what makes you tick – so that they can speak the language of love in ways that are meaningful for you? In this week’s episode, we cover a way for you to not only help your partner show up for you – but also for you to discover hidden truths about what you truly desire. Learn how to create the first draft of your Love Map (as John Gottman calls it) – the User Manual for You.
How do you sustain attraction in your relationship over the long term? What can you do if you no
longer feel “the spark” with your partner? And, what can you do if your partner no longer feels
attracted to you? In today’s episode, we’re going to cover the mysterious force that brings us
together when it’s there (and sometimes tears us apart when it’s not there): Attraction. And to
celebrate the 100th episode of the Relationship Alive podcast, we are joined by two very special
guests: John Gottman AND Sue Johnson. John Gottman and Sue Johnson have both been with
us here on the podcast before, and our conversation today will reveal to you some surprising,
well-researched truths about what fuels the spark in your relationship.
Are you too busy for sex and connection? What if sex just isn’t happening, or isn’t happening enough in your relationship? While there are many reasons that this could be happening (or not happening, as the case may be) – sometimes all you have to do is to get it on the calendar. That being said, simply scheduling sex on your calendar isn’t always enough to turn things around. In this week’s episode, we’re going to cover how to schedule sex, why to schedule sex, and…most importantly…how to successfully navigate any pressure, or awkwardness, that comes from putting something so precious…on the calendar.
Along with the secrets of how to schedule sex successfully, you’ll also learn a bit more about how to create intimacy with and without sex, why connection is so important for having an amazing sex life, and the benefits of nurturing your sexual and sensual life with your partner.
Also, get ready for next week, which will be the 100th episode of the Relationship Alive podcast! Joining us next week will two amazing guests – John Gottman AND Sue Johnson – to talk about Attraction. What do you do when attraction vanishes in your relationship? How do you sustain the attraction and spark that you have? The answers to these questions (and more) about attraction might surprise you, so be sure to tune in next week as well to hear what emerges in my conversations with John Gottman and Sue Johnson.