What turns you on – and what turns you off? Once you know your erotic blueprint type, it’s so much easier to have the kind of intimacy that you most deeply desire. And when you hit a snag in the sexual sphere of your relationship, it could be that you and your partner haven’t quite learned each other’s erotic languages – leading to sexual miscommunication. Never mind the love languages – it’s the Erotic Blueprint type that matters in the sexual domain! This week’s episode features Ian Ferguson, who played an instrumental role in creating the Erotic Blueprint methodology with his partner Jaiya. You’ll learn the 5 Erotic Blueprint types, how to figure out what you are, and how to tackle differences that you and your partner might have in how you express yourselves in your most intimate moments.
While some kind of issue is going to be at the heart of every breakup, how do you get past the issues and create a breakup that’s kind, generous, and respectful? How do you find compassion and understanding within the pain and grief? When it comes to conscious uncoupling, or divorce, are there ways to make the process easier on yourself and your soon-to-be-ex partner? In today’s episode we confront whether or not breaking up has to be a shitshow – or can it be something that’s easeful despite the pain that’s inherent in the process.
What do you do when you're suffering? How do you escape patterns of blaming in your relationship, and find the place within you that can turn painful moments into growth, and transformation? And how do you know when you've experienced too much pain – when it's time to move on? This week, we’re having a return visit with Guy Finley, author of the new book Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together and the international bestseller The Secret of Letting Go.
For quite awhile now I’ve been mentioning that there have been some challenges and changes going on in my life. This week, I’m going to share some of that with you. I’ve waited awhile for the timing to be right, so please take a moment and join me for a glimpse into my world and all that’s been happening.
With all the focus on ways to improve your relationship, growth and change can become something of an obsession. Especially if things are painful! However, sometimes all the efforts to change can create even more problems. So…it’s helpful to know when it’s time to just…stop. There are particular ways of “stopping” that can actually be beneficial – to your health and the health of your relationship. In this episode, I give you three specific ways to “stop” that can potentially jumpstart the “flow” in your relationship – especially if things have gotten stuck. It’s a little edgy (particularly my third suggestion) – but can sometimes be exactly what you need.
Ever feel like there’s a little too much drama in your life? Well, if that’s the case, then you probably have been caught in the Drama Triangle. If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle then be prepared – you’re going to start seeing it EVERYWHERE. Today you’ll learn how to spot it – and even better, how to escape it. Our guest is Dr. Stephen Karpman, the creator of the Drama Triangle, and author of the recent book “A Game-Free Life: The Definitive Book on the Drama Triangle and the Compassion Triangle” – which explains how to spot the sources of drama and dysfunction – and what to do to break the cycle. Along the way, you’ll also get clear tips on improved communication, how to deepen intimacy, and what agreements are essential to maintain in any relationship.
How do you communicate about your feelings in the most effective way possible? While we’re at it, how do you even *feel* your feelings so that they can move through you – instead of getting stuck or repressed? And, as you learn how to communicate about your feelings – what does the way that people respond to you tell you about them? In this week’s episode, you’ll discover some easy ways to touch into your deepest feelings, and to communicate about them in ways that can help connect you to the people in your life. And you’ll learn how communicating about your own emotions can help you discern important information about others.
How do you know if you, or someone you love, is addicted to sex, or porn? What can you do about it? And along with healing patterns of addiction, what is most helpful for the partners of people with addiction? Our guest today is Paula Hall, one of the world’s leading experts on treating sex and porn addiction, and the author of “”Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction” – along with many other books on the topic for addicts, partners, and the therapists who are helping them.
Are you being true to who you are? What are the ways that you’re holding back in your relationship, or compromising yourself? Even if you’re single, there might be ways that you’re not quite being fully yourself! Not only do you not get to experience life as fully as you could be – the people around you don’t get to actually experience3 you in all your glory! Of course, sometimes being “you” is risky – and requires courage and vulnerability. In this week’s episode, I’m going to help you diagnose the places where you could be shining a little more brightly – and help you learn how to step back into integrity before your light gets too dim – or the resentment gets too overwhelming!
Conflict in relationship is often viewed as a bad thing. It’s uncomfortable. It’s tense. It makes us feel bad, and often makes our partners feel bad too. But what if you’re missing out on an opportunity? Like two tectonic plates rubbing against each other, two people butting heads in relationship might be just the moment where something new forms within that relationship. And within you. That’s the view of this week’s guest, Viola Neufeld. She’s a coach, educator, therapist and facilitator, and she works to help those stuck in conflict to work through their difficult conversations to a place of profound inner transformation. Viola is also the author of “Grateful For The Fight: Using inner conflict to transform yourself and your relationships.”
This is my first time listening to this podcast. I was activity searching for something like this in efforts to have a healthy, intimate, real relationship and this gem happened to pop up! I have to say Neil really does have such amazing content on here. I am sooooo grateful for this podcast, it has helped me immensely with communication with my partner and I have to give this podcast credit for helping me pave such a respectful path for my new relationship. I am spreading the word and I am excited to keep learning and growing! Thank you Neil! I recently downloaded the free guide for secret tips on communication and I am soo eager to read it!
My partner and I are using many of the tools I learned here. If you have a chance listen to relationship Alive! You won’t regret it 🧡
Love it! But.
July 8, 2019 by Akmommaof2 from United States
I love almost all of the podcasts!! My only complaint is when he switched to putting his adds in the middle of everything after you’re engaged, tends to throw me off! Not sure about everyone else?
Not a Substitute for Therapy but Pretty Dang Close
July 4, 2019 by FreeziePop from United States
As a therapist myself, I use this as supplemental to my partner’s and my couple’s counseling with positive outcomes. Well produced show with extremely knowledgeable and well known/renowned guests (in the mental health field).
July 1, 2019 by Brandon MS from United States
Neil is a gifted interviewer who brings information that is helpful for laypeople as well as professionals. I am a marriage and family therapist, as a busy mom and clinician I have found this podcast extremely helpful in pointing me toward what I want to invest time reading more about. I often forward podcasts to my clients to have them listen as well. Thank you Neil!
Great and helpful interviews
June 18, 2019 by Lazercats from United States
Neil has a great interview style and has interesting and knowledgeable people on his show. Very helpful for my relationships.