252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict – Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis

252: How and Why to Get Better at Conflict – Getting to Zero with Jayson Gaddis

When you can’t be yourself in your relationship and avoid the tough conversations that you might need to have, it erodes your relationship AND your sense of self. Today we’re going to focus on how to lean into conflict in ways most likely to lead to deeper connection with others as well as inner alignment within yourself. Our guest is Jayson Gaddis, and his new book “Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships” is a masterpiece to level up your conflict-resolution skills.

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251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis – with Pete Pearson

251: Rebuilding Trust During a Crisis – with Pete Pearson

Are there ways to build trust in your relationship – even if you’re in the middle of a crisis? How do you identify your relationship strengths – and use them in these most challenging moments? Today we have a return visit from Dr. Peter Pearson, co-founder of the Couple’s Institute (along with his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader), and one of today’s leading trainers of couples therapists. Whether you’re in a relationship, or a couples therapist, or both – today’s episode is full of practical wisdom to help navigate the hardest moments that a couple can face.

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250: Start Your Day with Being OK

250: Start Your Day with Being OK

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How do you find the place within you that’s “ok” no matter what? And how do you use that place as a resource to help you handle the things that aren’t ok? In today’s episode I’m going to give you a quick-and-easy way to start your day on the right foot – while at the same time getting a clear look at what just might need to change in your life…without being paralyzed by it. No bypasses here! Just a clear path forward that acknowledges your strengths – while you’re empowered to work on the things that are challenging. 

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249: When You’re the One Doing ALL the Work

249: When You’re the One Doing ALL the Work

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What do you do when you feel like you’re the only one doing the work in your relationship? When things would just fall apart if you weren’t on top of it? Or what can you do if things aren’t going so well, and you’re the only one who seems to care enough to try and make things different? And how do you know when it’s time to stop trying…and walk away? It turns out there are a lot of options available to you – and some of them will probably surprise you!

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248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship?

248: What Are Your Rights in a Healthy Relationship?

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If your relationship is going to thrive and stand the test of time, then what are the essential ingredients for that to happen? What do you have the “right” to do – and experience – in your relationship? And – like any time that we have rights – what are the responsibilities that go along with those rights? After this week’s episode, you’ll be able to diagnose what’s going well in your relationship – and where important things are missing.

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247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship

247: The Path from an Insecure Attachment Style to a Healthy Relationship

If you have an insecure attachment style (or your partner does – or both of you do) – can you have a healthy relationship? And how do you know if an issue that comes up is something that you’ll actually be able to fix? Avoidant, anxious, island, wave – or secure – sure, it’s helpful to be able to identify your attachment style – but what can you actually do about the unhealthy patterns that arise? Today we’re going to talk about what it really looks like to move from insecure to secure attachment – and how to get out of an unhealthy dynamic into something more positive.

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246: How to Get Honest with Yourself

246: How to Get Honest with Yourself

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Have you ever gone through a major life change, and then, in retrospect, wondered how you could have possibly been living the way that you were living? Everything seemed so great at the time, right? Or, at least, great enough. But when the spell is broken, and the veil is lifted – suddenly everything looks different. Hindsight is 20/20 – and one of life’s biggest challenges is to see things accurately in the moment. In today’s episode you’ll get strategies to get past how you *wish* things were – in order to see things as they actually are.

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245: How to Not Die Alone – Using Science to Crack the Code of Modern Dating – with Logan Ury

245: How to Not Die Alone – Using Science to Crack the Code of Modern Dating – with Logan Ury

Modern dating can be so challenging. Simply finding good people is challenging. Knowing how to take a relationship to the next level, when to commit, or when to get out of a relationship so that you can find something better – that’s challenging! Today we’re going to focus on all the ways that you can get out of your own way, and use the power of behavioral science to make better choices and break old patterns as you navigate the world of modern love. Our guest is Logan Ury, author of the new book “How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science that Will Help You Find Love”. You’ll find that there are all sorts of ways for you to adjust what you do to make the kinds of decisions that lead to deeper, more fulfilling connections.

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244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes

244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes

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When you want to shift something in your life, sometimes the scale of the change can seem daunting. So how do you get from point A to point B (or…point Z) in a way that’s actually doable – and sustainable? It can be tempting to take drastic actions to make big changes – but you might sabotage your changes by falling into your old habits. Today we’ll talk about how you can create positive changes in your relationship, or something else in your life, in a way that’s practical, and relatively easy – no matter how big the change.

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243: Ultimatums – The Good and The Bad

243: Ultimatums – The Good and The Bad

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Are ultimatums ever a good idea? If so – when? If not, what can you do instead? What should you do if you receive an ultimatum from your partner? And how do you undo the damage that an ultimatum can do to a relationship? In this episode, we’re going to cover all the ins and outs of what to do when you come up against a dealbreaker in your relationship, and how to handle your last-ditch attempts to get things back on track.

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