Personal Productivity: Zen to Done Part One
by neil | Dec 19, 2007 | Productivity
Lately my wife and I have been looking around at our mountains of “things to do” and feeling a bit overwhelmed. Now we’ve (all of us – you included!) have already discussed a way of tackling the feeling of being overwhelmed with all the...Personal Development and Curiosity: Learning to Unicycle and Why You Should Do Something Equally as Useless
by neil | Dec 12, 2007 | Personal Development
A few years ago, I started a list of “things that I want to be able to do before I die”. Some things on the list are useful (speak Japanese), while others are less obviously useful (spit an arc of water out of my mouth in a narrow continuous stream as if...Lucid Dreaming Techniques: Escaping from a Nightmare
by neil | Dec 6, 2007 | Lucid Dreaming
Speaking of dreams – my entire life I’ve had very vivid dreams during the night. There has always been a quality to them that seemed real – as if they were, in fact, taking place – perhaps in another dimension. While that’s been mostly...Personal Development: What Snowstorms Teach Us about Overcoming Procrastination
by neil | Dec 3, 2007 | Productivity
The first snowstorm of the year is always exciting, especially when it arrives in the middle of the night, and we wake up to a world that looks totally different than it did mere hours before. Then reality sets in: how to MOVE all that snow? That’s what...Latest Podcast Episode
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