112: How and Why to Apologize Effectively with Harriet Lerner

112: How and Why to Apologize Effectively with Harriet Lerner

Have you ever received an apology that didn’t quite cut it? That made things even worse? Plus, let’s face it – life can be messy. Despite your best intentions, it is nearly impossible to avoid causing harm or hurt every so often. So – when is an apology necessary? How do you apologize effectively? Isn’t “I’m sorry” enough? What are the key ingredients to be able to repair a relationship in a way that makes your connection stronger? And what is the place of forgiveness in all of this?

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111: How to Ask for Support – with Neil Sattin

111: How to Ask for Support – with Neil Sattin

Do you ever feel alone in challenging times? There’s an art to weaving a web of support for yourself, so that the people in your life know how to show up for you. And so that the people showing up for you actually do it in a way that truly supports you – and helps you move towards a more positive, life-affirming way of being. In today’s episode, we talk about how to ask for help, how NOT to ask for help – and how to figure out exactly what you’re asking for. We also address how to answer when someone is asking you for support.

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110: Your Tantra Questions Answered – with Diana Richardson

110: Your Tantra Questions Answered – with Diana Richardson

How can you use the techniques of tantra in your everyday, busy life? How do you get off the “getting off” grid when it comes to sex, and find deeper, more satisfying connection with your partner? What is “relaxed entry” – and how can that revolutionize your sex life? In this episode, we receive a return visit from Diana Richardson, one of the world’s experts on tantra, and author of The Heart of Tantric Sex (among many other books on tantra).

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109: Is This Normal?

109: Is This Normal?

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Is it normal to have conflict in your relationship? How do you know if what you’re experiencing is OK – or a sign of doom? And, even more importantly – what do you do when conflict occurs to lead to an even deeper connection with your partner? In this episode, I cover what NOT to do when you dive into a fight with your partner – and what you CAN do to keep yourselves from heading into a downward spiral of disconnection. You’ll also learn how to avoid the trap of just sweeping conflict under the rug – which is a good short-term solution, but over the long term will deepen the rifts between you and your partner. Yes, it’s normal – but what you DO about it is what matters most!

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108: Creating Positive Intensity in Your Connection with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

108: Creating Positive Intensity in Your Connection with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

Does is seem like the only time that things get intense in your relationship is when negative things happen? This kind of experience, repeated over time, can literally train your brain to be in a hyper-vigilant state when your partner is around. So how can you rewire your brain to experience your partner as intensely positive? And how do you switch from a pattern of complaining to a pattern of wish-granting with your partner? In today’s episode, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to answer these important questions. We cover one particular exercise that you can do with your partner (that Chloe and I experienced in their Getting the Love You Want workshop at Kripalu) that they’ve never talked about in an interview! We also discuss tips from their new book, The Space Between, which offers a succinct explanation of how to apply the fundamental lessons from their work in your relationship.

Additionally, if you’re interested in hearing our first conversation together – Episode 22 – Essential Skills for Conscious Relationship with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

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107: A Little Honesty Goes a Long Way

107: A Little Honesty Goes a Long Way

What’s an amazing source of energy for your relationship? The TRUTH! Are there moments when you’re not telling the full truth? Or does it seem that your partner is holding back? If there’s energy and vitality missing from your connection, it could be that there’s not enough honesty in your relationship. Building on episode 105, where we talked about small changes that can make a big difference in your relationship, in this episode we’re going to talk about how to make small shifts in the way you communicate that will help bring you back into balance with the truth. We’ll also revisit some of the concepts from Episode 24 with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson – on why lying happens in a relationship, and how to tell if you’re actually encouraging your partner to lie to you! All in today’s episode of Relationship Alive!

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106: Stopping The Nice Guy Syndrome with Robert Glover

106: Stopping The Nice Guy Syndrome with Robert Glover

Are you a “nice guy” – or are you in a relationship with one? While there’s nothing wrong with being nice, it can create problems – especially when you’re so focused on pleasing others that you move further and further away from your true, authentic self. How do you reclaim masculinity without becoming a stereotype? How do you consider others, while still maintaining healthy boundaries? In this episode, we’re talking with Dr. Robert Glover, the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, about how to find a healthy way to uncover your true self – and to bring your authenticity to your life and relationship.

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105: One Small Thing That Can Change Everything

105: One Small Thing That Can Change Everything

How do you get from where you are now – to where you want to be? If you keep doing more of the same, then you’re going to experience…more of the same. Sometimes, when you’re trying to achieve different results, it does make sense to make BIG changes. However, in today’s episode, we discover how to find the tiny places in your life where you can easily make a shift – the kind of shift that will ripple out into everything else. Once you identify these leverage points, you might find that the bigger changes…take care of themselves.

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104: How to Get What You Need – Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers

104: How to Get What You Need – Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers

Do you feel like there are some things that you just can’t ask for? How do you get what you truly need in relationship? And how do you navigate to true win/win solutions in a relationship where you and your partner feel excited by what you’ve created together, instead of feeling drained by compromise? In today’s episode, you’re going to learn a unique approach to getting your needs met, and getting your partner’s needs met. Instead of using a psychological approach, today’s guest, Max Rivers, is going to show you how to use the skills of mediation to breathe new life into your connection. In addition, through Max’s unique application of Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (which he calls “Embodied Nonviolent Communication”), you’ll discover another secret ingredient to effective communication within your relationship. Max Rivers is a trained mediator who teaches these skills to couples in a series of six classes. His forthcoming new book, Tired of the Same Old Argument, makes his concepts easy to understand and put into practice. And, of course, I’m excited to introduce him to you!

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103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?

103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?

How do you know if you’re being codependent? What happens if, in the process of trying NOT to be codependent, you stop considering your partner? How do you find the balance? And what is the antidote for resentment in a relationship? In this week’s episode of Relationship Alive with Neil Sattin, you’ll discover the essential difference between being codependent and being considerate – and you’ll learn how to find even more freedom AND connection with your partner.

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  • Highly Recommend!
    October 17, 2017 by J. Barshop from United States

    Neil and his guests share actionable and inspiring lessons on how to build (not just maintain) relationships. Highly recommend listening and subscribing to Relationship Alive if you want the knowledge AND mindsets to have lasting relationships (and live your best life as a result)!

  • Not what it seems from the title, very deep and enlightening
    October 12, 2017 by Brielle Ramirez from United States

    Loved this episode. Very enlightening and spoke about so much from all viewpoints and self awareness. Must listen!

  • SUCH A GREAT RESOURCE - THANKS!
    October 2, 2017 by Anne Goshen from United States

    these are all so helpful...

  • It has changed my life
    September 19, 2017 by Acf12345 from Australia

    I want to thank Neil Sattin for this amazing podcast. I listen to it when I am doing my household chores and I truly have learnt so much about relationships. The interviews he has done are so interesting. This should be a course taught in all schools!!

  • Very very powerful and helpful
    September 8, 2017 by Xgrip from United States

    I recommend this podcast to everyone. Whether in a relationship or just striving for self realization this podcast is for you.