138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship – with Marnia Robinson – from the Archives

138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship – with Marnia Robinson – from the Archives

Are your orgasms getting in the way of your close connection with your partner? Conventional wisdom says that more orgasms = better – but the truth might actually be quite the opposite. The good news is that there are ways that you can have sex with your partner, and foster intimacy, that seem to avoid the pitfalls that orgasms can create. In order to explain, my guest today is Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships.

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137: Calling in The One – No Matter Your Status – with Katherine Woodward Thomas

137: Calling in The One – No Matter Your Status – with Katherine Woodward Thomas

How do you align with your vision for love and call it into your life? What’s holding you back from experiencing what you want? Whether you’re single and looking, or in a relationship and wondering what’s keeping you from making it even better, today’s episode is for you. Our guest is my friend, colleague, and mentor Katherine Woodward Thomas, bestselling author of Calling in The One and the New York Times bestseller Conscious Uncoupling. In this conversation, Katherine and I will take you on an inner journey, so that you can uncover your unconscious blocks to love and magnetize yourself for attracting exactly what you want in your relationship. She’s also about to launch a new training for Calling in The One coaches, which we’ll talk about towards the end of our conversation. Katherine Woodward Thomas’s work is profoundly transformative – something that I’ve experienced personally, and I’m delighted to be able to share it with you so you can experience it for yourself.

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136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

What’s one of the most important factors in determining the success of your relationship? I’ll give you a hint: it’s something to do with how you and your partner get your needs met. The good news is – there’s actually a lot of power in your hands, if you know what you’re doing (and how to do it). If you ever feel like you’re not quite getting your needs met, or that you and your partner are getting stuck, then this Relationship Action Step could make all the difference. And if you’re looking for something practical to help you be even more successful in your relationship, with more energy and passion for each other, then this episode is definitely for you.

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135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding – with Deborah Tannen

135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding – with Deborah Tannen

How does the way that you communicate affect your ability to connect, and be understood? Can you change your communication style to become a more effective communicator? We don’t all use language the same way, and in today’s episode, we’re going to see exactly how those differences play out in our interactions with the people we care about most. And by the end of the conversation, you’ll have some strategies for bridging the communication gap in any situation when things aren’t going quite as you had planned. Our guest is Deborah Tannen, Georgetown Professor and author of You Just Don’t Understand, the classic book on gender differences in communication. Her latest book, You’re the Only One I Can Tell, is about the language of friendships between women. Deborah Tannen’s specialty is how we use language – and identifying exactly where differences in the way that we communicate connect us, and get in our way

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134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust – What to Do – with Neil Sattin

134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust – What to Do – with Neil Sattin

Is it ever a good idea to snoop? Do you suspect that your partner is keeping secrets from you? Or are you being “snooped upon” and wondering what to do about it? How do you rebuild trust? In today's episode, we're going to dive deep on the topic of snooping, and secrets, in your relationship. What do you do if you feel like snooping is the only way to get information about what's going on with your partner? How do you rebuild openness and honesty in your relationship? I'll answer all of those questions as we continue the conversation about how to promote “the truth” in your relationship.

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133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns

133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns

The way that you think creates the way you feel. If you have great thoughts then no problem, but if your thoughts are a little distorted, then…look out! Wouldn’t it be great if there were an easy way to look at your thoughts…and change them? As it turns out – there is! In today’s conversation we are going to show you how to identify the kinds of thoughts that lead to depression, anxiety, shame, anger, and self-doubt – and talk about the process that you can go through to eliminate those thoughts for good. Our guest is Dr. David Burns, author of the acclaimed bestseller Feeling Good and one of the leading popularizers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). He is also the creator of TEAM therapy, which takes CBT to the next level. Today, David Burns and I are tackling the topic of “cognitive distortions” – the messed-up thinking that can get you stuck in negative emotions. By the end of today’s episode you’ll not only be able to spot the times when your thinking gets distorted, but you’ll know what to do about it so that you can “feel good”.

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132: Core Relationship Principles #2 – Finding Play, Humor, Fun, and Lightness – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

132: Core Relationship Principles #2 – Finding Play, Humor, Fun, and Lightness – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

How do you bring playfulness, laughs, and lightness into your relationship? And why is it so important? This is the second episode of our “Core Relationship Principles” series. Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin cover exactly why it’s so important to foster the fun in your relationship, and to not take everything so seriously (even the serious things). We also cover how to jumpstart this energy in those moments when it seems to have disappeared. After listening, you’ll have some practical strategies for having more fun in your relationship.

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131: How Love is Evolving You – Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere

131: How Love is Evolving You – Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere

When you start a relationship, something special becomes possible, something unique that the world has never known before. However – how do you figure out what that “something special” is? And how can your love be a vehicle for actually helping us evolve? This episode is an invitation to you to step into an experience of “shared consciousness” – what happens when you’re able to explore the space created between you and another person. Our guest is Patricia Albere, founder of the Evolutionary Collective and author of Evolutionary Relationships: Unleashing the Power of Mutual Awakening. Patricia has been guiding others on this path for years, exploring the edges of how consciousness shifts when two (or more) people step into it together.

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130: On Valentine’s Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

130: On Valentine’s Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

Does Valentine’s Day create pressure, or problems, for you? How do you get past the expectation and celebrate love – in your own way – without falling victim to the cliché? And also – on a separate but equally important note – how do you handle uncertainty, in your life, and in your relationship? In today’s episode we’re going to cover strategies for successfully navigating Valentine’s Day whether you’re single or in a relationship – and we’re also going to reveal our top 3 ways to deal with uncertainty, and transform it into something positive. Plus Neil Sattin reveals a bonus “4th way” to use uncertainty in your relationship to create connection with your partner.

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129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple – with Jayson Gaddis

129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple – with Jayson Gaddis

How do you build an indestructible relationship? It’s all about how you welcome the challenges, magnify the good times, and build a web of support. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, though – because the way to do those things wasn’t something that you were taught in school. In today’s episode, we welcome Jayson Gaddis, fellow relationship coach, founder of the Relationship School, and host of The Smart Couple podcast. Jayson shares some of his favorite relationship recipes, so that you can not only collect the right ingredients for your relationship, but also learn the unique way to cook them up into something that will serve your relationship for years to come.

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Podcast Reviews

  • Very helpful!!
    April 15, 2018 by shan96kb from United States

    I love this podcast. I learn something every episode. Thanks Neil!

  • Love your Podcast!!
    April 8, 2018 by Love Your Podcast! from United States

    Thanks so much for all the wonderful therapist on your podcast. You truly are an amazing interviewer and have awesome therapist who truly offer great advise and tangible ways to improve oneself and our most intimate relationships. My significant other and I have enjoyed and grown as a more spiritually evolved couple by listening to your wonderful podcast. We have listened to “ALL” of your podcast. Looking forward to many more 🙂 Thank you again! Hats off to you!! Paola & Alex 💕

  • Excellent resource. Wonderful stuff.
    March 30, 2018 by Richbabe71 from Australia

    I have found this series of podcasts to be a real gem. Neil's approach to interviewing, his guests and the information presented make this an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve their relationships with their partner and indeed all relationships. It has helped me on many levels and I urge anybody considering downloading to give it a go. I am really grateful it's available.

  • Literally saved my marriage!!!
    February 28, 2018 by The Bint from United States

    This podcast is a treasure trove of relationship advice & resources! No New Age love gurus with gimmicky advice. Every guest has years, even decades of research to back them up. But your relationship doesn't have to be on the rocks in order to benefit from this podcast. The focus of this show is growth, for the individuals & for the relationship. Nearly every episode has mind-blowing revelations & yet when you think about it, it's all very intuitive.

  • Transformative
    February 22, 2018 by RachD315 from United States

    Thank you Neil!