Relationship Alive...LIVE! (recorded version)
Enjoy a “night out” at the theater - from the comfort of your own home.
You have a front row seat...
For conversation, laughter, music, and wisdom...
With three of the world's most cherished relationship experts!
A little over 6 years ago, I had this dream.
What would it be like to bring the Relationship Alive podcast to a theater, with a live audience?
We’d all be up close and personal with world-class relationship experts, with the chance to ask them your most important questions - and hear how they respond live, in the moment, with no filter.
(and with a little bit of live music to soothe the soul)
What materialized were two amazing nights - profound, intimate, entertaining, and transformative.
And, fortunately, we filmed them both.
$25 for The Gottmans!
Relationship Alive - Live! featuring The Gottmans
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Holiday Special!
BOGO! Get both shows for one low price.
$50 for Both
$25 BOGO Holiday Special!
thru December 22, 2025
Lifetime Access to BOTH Relationship Alive...Live! shows
featuring The Gottmans and Terry Real.
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans and Terry Real as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson (Gottmans) and Katie Matzell (Terry Real)
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for Terry Real
Lifetime Access to Relationship Alive...Live! featuring Terry Real
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and Terry Real
✓ Hear practical advice from Terry Real as he responds to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Katie Matzell
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for The Gottmans!
Relationship Alive - Live! featuring The Gottmans
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for Terry Real
Lifetime Access to Relationship Alive...Live! featuring Terry Real
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and Terry Real
✓ Hear practical advice from Terry Real as he responds to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Katie Matzell
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Holiday Special!
BOGO! Get both shows for one low price.
$50 for Both
$25 BOGO Holiday Special!
thru December 22, 2025
Lifetime Access to BOTH Relationship Alive...Live! shows
featuring The Gottmans and Terry Real.
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans and Terry Real as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson (Gottmans) and Katie Matzell (Terry Real)
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
When Science Meets Heart: An Evening with the Gottmans
(total run time: 2 hours 18 minutes)
On a memorable October evening, I sat down with Drs. John and Julie Gottman, the world's leading researchers on what makes relationships succeed or fail, at the State Theatre in Portland, Maine.
For over four decades, the Gottmans have studied thousands of couples, observing them in laboratory settings and following their relationships for up to 20 years. Their research into what works (and what doesn't) has revolutionized couples therapy and helped millions understand the patterns that predict relationship success...or disaster.
We covered a lot of ground:
- What to do about recurring conflict: Learn why 69% of conflicts are perpetual (and unsolvable) - and what to do about it!
- Changing the dynamic: Why the 5:1 ratio matters more than you think, and what to do instead of "fixing communication"
- Real people, real stories: The Gottmans share personal stories from their own 30+ year marriage, including Julie's quest for a cabin and John's dramatic restaurant repair attempt
- Plus, you get practical tools: From the "dreams within conflict" exercise to gentle startup techniques, you'll get actionable strategies to transform your relationships
- How to recognize what's true for you: A powerful exercise led by Julie Gottman
Questions from the audience:
- Caretaking vs. caregiving - breaking free from exhausting gender roles when one partner gives too much
- Healing from childhood trauma - can you heal yourself WITH your partner, or must you heal first?
- Welcoming a new baby - keeping your connection strong through the chaos of new parenthood
- When criticism triggers defensiveness - what to do in that moment when all you want to do is fight back
- High school sweethearts at midlife - navigating the "is this all there is?" question after decades together
- Sharing "unreasonable" feelings - whether to speak up when your emotions don't seem to make logical sense
- Handling a spirited child together - co-parenting when you're both strong-willed (and exhausted)
Musical interludes by Sara Hallie Richardson
with guests Megan Jo Wilson and Anna Lombard
$25 for The Gottmans!
Relationship Alive - Live! featuring The Gottmans
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Holiday Special!
BOGO! Get both shows for one low price.
$50 for Both
$25 BOGO Holiday Special!
thru December 22, 2025
Lifetime Access to BOTH Relationship Alive...Live! shows
featuring The Gottmans and Terry Real.
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans and Terry Real as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson (Gottmans) and Katie Matzell (Terry Real)
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for Terry Real
Lifetime Access to Relationship Alive...Live! featuring Terry Real
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and Terry Real
✓ Hear practical advice from Terry Real as he responds to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Katie Matzell
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for The Gottmans!
Relationship Alive - Live! featuring The Gottmans
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for Terry Real
Lifetime Access to Relationship Alive...Live! featuring Terry Real
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and Terry Real
✓ Hear practical advice from Terry Real as he responds to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Katie Matzell
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Holiday Special!
BOGO! Get both shows for one low price.
$50 for Both
$25 BOGO Holiday Special!
thru December 22, 2025
Lifetime Access to BOTH Relationship Alive...Live! shows
featuring The Gottmans and Terry Real.
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans and Terry Real as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson (Gottmans) and Katie Matzell (Terry Real)
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
When Truth Meets Courage: An Evening with Terry Real
(total run time: 2 hours 3 minutes)
On an unforgettable spring evening at One Longfellow Square in Portland, Maine, I sat down with Terry Real - renowned couples therapist, bestselling author, and creator of Relational Life Therapy - for the premiere of Relationship Alive...Live!
Terry doesn't pull punches. From his opening story about growing up with violence and becoming a therapist to "have the conversation with my father that I needed to have," to his revolutionary ideas about what actually makes relationships work, this evening was raw, real, and transformative.
You witness the beauty of wisdom earned through personal struggle and refined through Terry's decades of helping couples break free from patterns that keep them stuck.
What you'll discover:
- The 5 Losing Strategies that will never get you what you want in relationships: being right, controlling your partner, unbridled self-expression (venting), retaliation, and withdrawal
- Why "being right" is killing your relationship - and the revolutionary shift from "Who's right?" to "How do we make this work as a team?"
- "Objective reality has no place in personal relationships" - Terry's most provocative insight about what matters in love (hint: it's great for running trains, terrible for relationships)
- From patriarchal thinking to relational living - how to break free from toxic masculinity and step into what Terry calls "relational heroism"
- Normal marital hatred - why the most profound intimate relationships include both harmony and disharmony in an endless dance of connection, disruption, and repair
- Standing up for yourself with love - Terry's famous technique for finding your voice without destroying connection
- "I want the mighty to melt and the weak to stand up" - how to rebalance power dynamics so you can meet in the middle
Questions from the audience:
- Dealing with narcissistic partners - when to confront, how to find your voice
- Toxic masculinity across generations - what younger men need to know
- When your partner won't engage - strategies for breaking through defensive walls
- Jealousy and insecurity - getting to the root of what's really happening
- The mighty and the weak - finding balance when power dynamics are off
Musical interludes by Katie Matzell
with Max Cantlin and Adam Frederick
$25 for The Gottmans!
Relationship Alive - Live! featuring The Gottmans
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Holiday Special!
BOGO! Get both shows for one low price.
$50 for Both
$25 BOGO Holiday Special!
thru December 22, 2025
Lifetime Access to BOTH Relationship Alive...Live! shows
featuring The Gottmans and Terry Real.
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans and Terry Real as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson (Gottmans) and Katie Matzell (Terry Real)
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for Terry Real
Lifetime Access to Relationship Alive...Live! featuring Terry Real
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and Terry Real
✓ Hear practical advice from Terry Real as he responds to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Katie Matzell
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for The Gottmans!
Relationship Alive - Live! featuring The Gottmans
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
$25 for Terry Real
Lifetime Access to Relationship Alive...Live! featuring Terry Real
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and Terry Real
✓ Hear practical advice from Terry Real as he responds to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Katie Matzell
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Holiday Special!
BOGO! Get both shows for one low price.
$50 for Both
$25 BOGO Holiday Special!
thru December 22, 2025
Lifetime Access to BOTH Relationship Alive...Live! shows
featuring The Gottmans and Terry Real.
INCLUDING:
✓ Lively conversation between Neil and the experts
✓ Hear practical advice from the Gottmans and Terry Real as they respond to Q&A from the audience
✓ Musical performances by Sara Hallie Richardson (Gottmans) and Katie Matzell (Terry Real)
✓ All the fun of a night out - plus some growth - in the comfort of your own home
Who's your host?
Hey there! I'm Neil Sattin, your host for Relationship Alive...Live!
I've produced more than 250 episodes interviewing the world's top relationship experts (with more than SEVEN MILLION downloads), read hundreds of books, and coached hundreds of clients all over the world.
It's my pleasure to bring the theater version of the podcast directly to you, so you can cozy up, experience the magic, and take the advice of Julie and John Gottman, and Terry Real, into your life.