How is coronavirus (COVID-19) impacting you? What are the implications of “social distancing” on your relationship – especially if you’re cooped up together for weeks at a time? Or if you’re single, how can you still enjoy dating while staying safe? In this week’s episode, you’ll get some strategies for taking care of yourself amidst the epidemic, with practical advice for staying calm – connected – and HEALTHY – while we weather the storm…together. Plus a few (mostly relevant) thoughts on “Love in the Time of Cholera” by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. Sending so much love to you!
As always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it!
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Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive.
This is your host, Neil Sattin. Today, we’re going to talk about a topic that’s been on my mind lately and perhaps it’s been on yours. We’re gonna talk about how the coronavirus Covid-19… How that is impacting us in our own lives and in our relationships. So whether you are solo or dating or in a relationship, or just looking for a better way to take care of yourself, we’re gonna talk about the impact of what is happening in our world, today on us.
And how do you stay centered and grounded and connected through all of that?
So that is what is in store for today. I had something else planned. But sometimes you gotta just go with what is right there in front of you, and if this isn’t in front of you already, it probably will be soon hopefully, and not hopefully not in a dire way, but let’s be real. This is a serious issue that we’re facing here in our world today, and I wanna be here to help support you through that.
Now, you might be able to hear that my voice is a little congested I’ve been fighting a cold.
I’m pretty sure that it is not the novel Coronavirus. So fingers crossed, but I don’t have all the symptoms so my healthcare provider tells me that I should just drink lots of fluids, get some rest and stay the course. So, well, of course, keep you posted on that one, on and I’m just gonna start by sending some love and care to you, today, hoping that this virus doesn’t impact you, and that it also doesn’t impact people that you love.
And of course, all in all. I don’t want it to impact anyone, and it is going to, on some level, so we’re confronted with a situation that’s not unlike other things that come up in life, where there’s a reality in front of us and we get to decide how we are going to respond to it, and how we’re gonna let it impact us, and also it gives us a chance to discover yet, again, what is in our control and what is not, and to make the best of what is in our control.
So today I’ll be discussing specific strategies with you to help you get through love in this time of coronavirus. Okay, first things first, if you find yourself in close quarters with people that you love and care about, because you’re going through some proactive social distancing.
Or in some sort of quarantine situation then it is extremely helpful to know how to communicate well and how to stay connected, even if you’re communicating about things that are challenging.
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Okay, so let’s dive in. And I’m being a little tongue-in-cheek with calling this episode, Love in the Time of Corona. It’s obviously a reference to the novel Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. And I read that book, way back in college.
Tell you the truth. I don’t remember a lot about it, but I do remember that it covers the complexities of love and relationship, and long-term relationship, and there’s a comparison between love and sickness. So there’s this sense that we have that life is complicated and it’s gonna be complicated no matter what. And the things that we sometimes think are true or easy or that we take for granted aren’t always – Things are not always as they seem. And I think that was a central theme in the book, that there are things that you assume to be true, that actually end up not being true. And of course, it’s a romantic novel that covers decades and decades of the lives of the two main protagonists. And the reason that I wanted to refer to it here is because we are in this position where we can’t escape what is happening around us.
Whether you think it’s all something that’s being blown out of proportion or whether you think that it is something that may seriously impact you and the people that you love or whether you’re just watching everything unfold, and waiting to see what is actually gonna happen, there’s almost no way at this point that you can avoid the impacts of covid 19, the new Coronavirus on your life.
Big events are being cancelled, or postponed. At least, this has been a consideration for me because I’m working on doing my live show and bringing it to a major metropolitan area near you. And it’s a little challenging to think about planning something like that, when there’s so much uncertainty at the moment, about whether these large events are actually going to be happening.
So life is interesting right now and I have two young kids in school, I have a mother with a compromised immune system, I have a 97-year-old grandmother. So as I look at the landscape of life, there’s a lot of ponder. And so, let’s just cover some of the basics. This portion of the show is gonna be my public service announcement.
Essentially what we want to do is something that has been called flattening the curve. So maybe you’ve heard of that, and you know what I’m talking about, if you don’t let me just tell you that what we are trying to do is slow the spread of this virus, by employing some measures that I’ll be talking about in a moment, and the idea of slowing it is to, one, prevent our healthcare systems from being overwhelmed, like, is already happening in some parts of the world.
So, as much as possible, if we slow the spread of Corona then we are doing our part to help overall, the healthcare system, keep up with whatever demand this illness puts upon it, and of course also as long as we’re able to delay the spread than our chances improve of a vaccine or a really effective treatment being discovered to help more people get through it.
So there are real practical reasons for doing this and it’s important for all of us because even if you yourself feel like your immune system is fairly robust, and you’re not worried about it, odds are that there are people, if not in your life, in the lives of people who are close to you who are at risk or could be impacted.
And so this really is one of those situations where it falls upon each of us to do our part for the greater good, so to not be cavalier about taking precautions and instead to do your part to flatten the curve to slow things down and to keep the coronavirus from reaching – if not yourself, or people you love, other people who are loved by people you know. So let’s all pull together for this. That is my wish for you as you’re listening.
And the things that we can do right now that we know of are relatively simple.
We can avoid really crowded spaces.
This is known as social distancing. So to spend more time, either in small groups or alone, if you have any signs of illness, to keep yourself away from other people until you know that you’re in the clear… And of course, if things feel serious at all or like you are at risk, then definitely contact your doctor, and find a way to get tested, so that you can know what is going on and so you can take an appropriate course of action.
It’s helpful to have a little stockpile of food and things so that you don’t have to leave your house, if you can avoid it, and you don’t wanna go overboard because we wanna make sure that there’s enough to go around and it’s likely that no matter what happens, grocery stores will be open and all of that. So the goal here is just to have enough to make sure that you’re gonna be okay in your home and that you will have to leave as little as possible. And the purpose of doing that again is to slow the spread because sadly we can actually be carriers of Covid-19 without knowing it, without having any symptoms.
So if you’re able to stay away from other people, for a couple of weeks, and that prevents you from catching something, or from inadvertently spreading something, then that is going to go a long way to helping our world beat this thing.
And then you’ve also probably heard, some of the basics. washing your hands frequently and not touching your face. Because the Covid-19 virus, it needs to get to your lungs and the way it does that is through your eyes, your nose or your mouth.
So if you keep your hands away for your face, and you wash your hands frequently, then you should be just fine or you will at least be doing the best that you can to prevent the spread of this illness. And at the moment we do not believe that wearing a mask is a very effective way of preventing yourself from getting the virus.
And people stockpiling masks is actually creating a problem in the health care industry because our doctors and nurses and first responders, don’t have the masks that they need. So maybe you wanna have a couple on hand just in case but other than that, probably better to ensure that masks can get to where they’re needed most with the people on the front lines of fighting this thing.
They do recommend that people who have the flu or have coronavirus that they wear a mask, and that is mainly to prevent or cut down on the chances of spreading the illness to other people. So, masks aren’t a terribly effective way to keep yourself from getting it as far as we know, but they are a good way of not spreading it to other people.
Of course, if you are being diagnosed with this, then you are probably gonna be getting much more thorough advice than you’re getting from me, and I’m not a doctor. So let me just be upfront that anything that I say here, I would love for you to take it with a grain of salt.
Please do your own research online if you need to. I’ve been doing a lot of reading on this topic, so I feel pretty confident in the recommendations that I’m making but I’m not a doctor.
So if you have any concerns at all, I recommend that you check with a doctor or check with the latest recommendations from your local health service, and hopefully all of our health services all over the world are being really proactive in getting that information out. Okay, so that’s the public service announcement part but now let’s get into the nitty gritty of why we’re here, which is three-fold, really. One is how to help yourself with what is going on in the world and how to deal with potentially the anxiety or worry or fear that you’re experiencing, if you are experiencing it or if you are in blissful ignorance. Maybe we should talk about that for just a moment or two more. So that’s the first part. The second part is, I wanna talk about when you are in a close relationship with someone, so if you are home more or less, working from home or in self-quarantine or social distancing. With your partner, and your kids, ’cause potentially, they are home from school.
So then odds are, you are gonna be around each other a lot more than you are used to. And so we’ll talk about some special considerations for that.
And finally, I want to talk about those few or those of us who are dating and who are not necessarily in a single love relationship, and the implications of what is going on on finding love, and developing love. So those are the three main bases, that I wanna cover today.
As usual we’ll start with the self and self-care because that is so important for keeping your feet on the ground, keeping your wits about you and keeping your heart centered as you move through this time.
So I’m not gonna make any assumptions about what this has been like for you. I’ll just say that for me, it’s been noticeable. I told you a little bit about a few moments ago that my mother has a compromised immune system, my grandmother is 97. they are in groups that are statistically at very high risk for not only getting the coronavirus, but also it potentially killing them.
And that’s scary for me, and I’ve spent a lot of time – the way that I tend to deal with uncertainty is through research, so reading and reading and reading, and that’s partly how this podcast came to be because I had my own struggles in relationships that I had witnessed in my own relationships, and so I dove into the details, because that’s what I do and I… My hope is that that is a benefit for you, but that doesn’t mean that you have to do it, you may have your own way of coping. And I think the first thing is just to acknowledge that it’s very possible that whatever your experience is, that you are, below at all, experiencing some stress, so whether that stress is anxiety and worry and fear or anger at people for blowing this way out of proportion or whatever it is, no matter how stressed you are, that stress is something worth confronting and doing something about, because stress suppresses our immune system for one thing. So the more that you you can confront your stress and bring yourself into balance, the better off you will be when it comes to just having a system that can fight whatever is going on in the world around you, whether that just be a cold or Coronavirus and it also is gonna help you show up better for other people in your life.
There’s nothing like trying to interact with the world, or trying to move through a stressful situation or conflict with another person when you yourself are stressed and dysregulated, so there’s never been a better time for you to establish a routine of checking in with yourself, how are you doing? And you could start with something with a broad strokes, like maybe every time you brush your teeth, which is perhaps two or three times a day you use that as an opportunity, a reminder that you should check in with yourself, and ask “How am I doing, what am I feeling right now, where do I notice that in my body?”
“Does it make sense? Does it make sense with everything that’s going on in my life?” To start doing this as a way of regularly taking your emotional pulse so that you can have a sense of what’s really happening with you, and what if anything needs to be addressed. If you notice that you are feeling something in particular – anxiety, fear, sadness, confusion, then it’s worth taking an extra step in asking yourself “What is that the root of that?”
And is there something I can do like “what aspect of this can I control and what aspects of this can I not control?”
And of the aspects that you can control, then you might ask yourself, “Well, what can I do to improve that thing?”
So if you’re feeling uncertain, then maybe there are things you can do to get more certainty. If you’re feeling disconnected or you’re alone, then what can you do to reach out and connect? If you’re feeling nervous for another person in your life, then what can you do to reach out to them and tell them that you care about them?
Right? These are all just simple ways of being proactive around noticing your emotional state and taking care of yourself to hopefully bring yourself back into balance: noticing your breathing, noticing your physical state, your physiological state and letting that also indicate for you how you’re doing, and if there’s something that needs to be addressed.
So you might think that you’re totally fine but if you check in with your body, you notice like, “Oh my heart’s pounding or… Oh, I’m kinda sweaty.”
Well, those might be signs of stress or something going on and if you do notice those things, then what can you do?
So can you just take a moment to breathe? Can you fix yourself a cup of tea?
Can you call a friend, someone that you care about and who cares about you?
Can you spend a little time with a pet, and just pet your dog or your cat or… My daughter really wants me to get her a little pigmy bunny. So I’m thinking about that. If you have a pigmy maybe spend a little time with your bunny just petting the bunny. I gotta think that that soft little bunny might help you calm down a little bit if you need that, and if you’re feeling angry at whatever is happening in the world, then this is also a great time for you to look within and ask yourself, “What is it about this that’s making you angry?”
What are the places where you feel like your power is being taken from you? Your system is responding with intelligence to that – your system is responding and saying “No. Take that power back. I’m angry.”
Again, there will be aspects of this that you can impact and there will be things that you cannot impact but no matter what, getting to know yourself better, getting to know what’s going on within you better and figuring out where you can be proactive to keep yourself regulated to move through and out of your stress, those are things that will help you, yourself in whatever is going on in the world and it will help you show up for the world and the other people around you, so that is taking care of yourself, also. Make sure you get plenty of sleep, drink lots of water, take Elderberry, vitamin C, just whatever you can do to keep your immune system bolstered and ready along with keeping yourself calm.
So I do want to change gears a little bit and talk about the impact of Corona on our relationships and on our dating life.
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Okay, so let’s get back to the next step in our conversation, which is about how Coronavirus is potentially gonna impact us in our relationships.
And there are few obvious ways when I mentioned already, which is the potential to be cooped up with people for a long period of time and just to be aware that in and of itself can cause stress and tension and then potentially, if anyone, you know, or as close to you get sick or if you get sick then that is another way that this could impact you.
So let’s talk a little bit about just the stress of being cooped up with other people more than anything. I think our mantra today should be to be kind and generous with each other to be compassionate and understanding.
So if you find that someone else is getting snappy with you to remind yourself that they are probably going through some stress right now and to not take it personally as much as possible, and if you, yourself, are feeling irritable, or challenged by something that someone else is doing then you might even speak it out loud, just like, “Hey I just want you to know that I’m really stressed or I’m exhausted or this is really challenging for me, and so I know I’m being unpleasant” or “I know I’m being argumentative, or I know I’m snapping back at you, and I just want you to know that it’s not personal, it’s what’s happening with me.”
So as much as you can take responsibility for your state of mind and state of heart and state of being with the other people around you, that is one way to really help them feel connected to you and to your experience.
And you might check in with the others too like “Hey how are you doing? It’s been five minutes since we’ve talked to each other.”
“Can I just check in with you and see how you are?”
And if you are with loved ones and relatively safe and isolated then… And you’ve washed your hands, then it’s probably totally fine for you to give each other back rubs or foot rubs and to be loving with each other as much as you can.
And if you’ve been going through a challenging time in your relationship, then this could be extra stressful for you. That seems obvious to me right now. There are those miraculous moments where times get tough and we band together and it helps us get past things that seem like a big deal, but when it comes right down to it, you realize that it’s not such a big deal. So potentially, there are those kinds of things that are going on in your relationship, that are creating challenge and this helps you kinda put everything in perspective. That could be a good thing, and… this could also exacerbate things. So I invite you to just one to acknowledge that that is a possibility, if that is something that you’re going through to recognize – Okay, things have been challenging, it might get more challenging and then you can develop a strategy for yourself – a plan around how to best safeguard yourself from it getting more challenging.
So if there are things that you know are particular triggers for you with this other person or ways that you trigger them, then you might take special care to not trigger the other person and to create safe boundaries around yourself, to keep your tender spots from being poked at and triggered as well.
You might also with your significant other, say something like, “Hey let’s just acknowledge that things have been challenging between us and maybe we could agree to just put all of that aside right now and just band together for this, for what’s happening in our world right now” – it’s another possibility.
Generally, the best thing is for you to be open about your experience, and what concerns you. In fact, you might even say something to your partner, like “hey, things have been to tough with us, recently. I’m a little nervous about us being in the same space a lot because of what’s going on in the world. Are you nervous about that?”
“Are there things do you think that we could do to help keep things light and spacious with us to help us be positive through all of this, and not make things worse?”
If you can enlist the other person and speak to the truth of what is, then that also increases your chances of getting through with flying colors, and I encourage you to do that as well and in the end, if you need to, I encourage you to take space and this can be a very useful strategy for everyone who is sharing space together: if you are sharing space to work out a system for when anyone can say, “Hey I need a time out for myself,” and where that time out and space is granted so that you or the other person can have some moments alone to recharge.
And so, yeah, I encourage you to work those things out ahead of time, if possible, so that you’re heading it off at the pass and you’re being proactive, and that way those conversations will have happened so that you can make space for other more important conversations that may come up during all of this time.
Now, if you are single or solo let’s move along, I guess. And of course, if you have specific questions around this stuff, you can always record yourself asking the question, and send it to me – the email addresses: firstname.lastname@example.org.
So, if you’re single, or solo or dating like what do you do in your circumstances? Well, here, a few things that come to mind. The first is that there’s potential for you to be extremely isolated, and that isn’t necessarily healthy either. Being completely isolated will theoretically prevent you from getting the coronavirus. But it might be really psychologically challenging to be that isolated. So this is a time where I would encourage you to find ways to stay connected. There are great freeways… to drive your car on. But what I really mean is, there are great free… ways that you can stay connected with other people. If you have internet access or a phone, you can do a Google Hangout or FaceTime or Skype calls. I really love the video conferencing technologies. In fact, most of my clients that I see, and I see clients all over the world, we do that using Zoom or Skype, and I’m so used to it now that it really feels as though we are in the same room with each other. And so I encourage you to reach out to other people, to not just get isolated in your home, but to find ways to reach out and connect using technology, using whatever technology is available to you.
And if you don’t have a phone and you don’t have a computer, then of course I’m wondering how you’re listening to this podcast, but you could always sit on your stoop outside – and if you’re out in the fresh air or the odds are pretty good that you’re not going to catch Coronavirus and that someone walking by would not catch it, from you or give it to you and you could just say “hello” to people who are walking by. Just be friendly and just ask people how they’re doing, and you can point out.
“I don’t wanna shake your hand, or give you a hug, but I just wanted to check in with people in the world and see how you are doing” and you may be surprised you might make someone’s day, by simply saying, “Hey how are you? This is all pretty weird, isn’t it, that we’re going through?” Because most of us have never had to go through something like this in our lives, not all of us. So if you have gone through this, perhaps you even have expertise that you can lend to those of us who… For whom this is new and scary and confusing? This is a good time for you to speak up and lend your expertise to the occasion.
So, that’s combating social isolation – even though we want to be doing social distancing. In order to flatten the curve.
Now, what about actual dating? Could you or should you be going out on dates in the current climate?
You know I’m inclined to say probably not right now, at least not until we really have a better sense of what is happening and really how Covid-19 spreads and we have consistent testing so that we really know for sure whether or not we are a carrier, someone else that we are going on on a date with… is a carrier.
It’s not too unlike the conversations that you need to have around STDS before you have sex with someone. Hopefully, you are having a conversation that goes over your risk factors. “Have you been tested? Have you had anything before?”
“When was the last time you were tested? Have you had any risky behaviors?”
So when you go out on a date with someone and they say, “Oh well, I went to the whatever concert last night.” Well, that might be a risk factor. So, the beautiful thing about this is that whatever you’re doing to date, and I’m assuming that you’re using technology of some sort at this point ’cause it’s almost unavoidable in the modern dating landscape, then this becomes a great way to slow things down and really get to know other people.
So spending a little bit more time with your texting or chatting back and forth, your IMing, having a virtual date so you can use FaceTime, and make yourself a cup of tea and have the other person make themselves a cup of tea and you can sit down and sip tea and get to know each other just as if you were there in the coffee shop and I… One thing that’s especially interesting about this is, with practice you can learn to really tune in to the other person, even though you’re not there in the same space with them, you can really tune in and get a sense for who they are as a person.
And on top of that, even if you’re not there in person with each other – think of all the times that when you’ve been in relationship if you have been in a relationship, how important it is to be able to communicate when you’re not together, so whether that be through texting or talking on the phone or Skyping or whatever, it’s actually helpful to know that that’s a medium that you can operate in with your potential partner and what better way to know than by actually doing it, and doing it a lot and getting some good practice at it. So you may be having a little less sex than you used to, if you’re a single person and you’re out and about… But I think that overall, that is probably worth it, for your safety and your prospective partner’s safety, unless you are absolutely positively sure that neither of you is that risk – in which case meet up and have fun. But I do encourage you to take advantage of the virtual spaces, and to take some risks around talking or hopping on a video call of some sort so that you can get to know someone more deeply without necessarily having to do it face-to-face, either at the coffee shop or in the bedroom. There will be a time for that, for sure.
And no matter what, taking the time to really get to know a person will help you make better choices than if you’re going by chemistry alone because when you meet up with someone, and it feels really good and you connect with them right away, that doesn’t always go so well, because you may not have done the due diligence required to ensure that someone is actually an appropriate partner for you. And gauging whether or not someone is appropriate for you to be dating is usually a much longer process that involves finding out a lot more about who they are and how they respond to you and how you respond to them.
And when you have all that dopamine and oxytocin flowing because you’re just going to town in the bedroom, then it can seriously cloud your perception and your judgment.
So this is going to be a boon. I predict that there are gonna be all kinds of really strong relationships that emerge from this period of time when we were forced to spend a little bit more time apart and get to know each other a little better.
As always, I could talk about this for a long, long time, but I hope that whether you’re single or in a relationship, or just thinking about how to maintain your own self-care during this time, that you’ve found something valuable in today’s episode, and one thing you might wanna do is catch up on other podcast episodes or do some reading. And next week, we’re gonna have a really fun interview with someone who’s an old friend of mine actually, who is a romance author.
We’re gonna talk about what we can learn from romance novels about love and relationships, and desire – and it may not surprise you to know that we can learn an awful lot!
So we have that conversation coming up next week, with Mara Wells. In the meantime, I am sending so much love and care and courage and calmness and health your way and just know that I am thinking of you and that we will all get through this, we will and I’m here for you… So thank you for spending this time with me today, and I look forward to you being with you again next week.
And be safe.