132: Core Relationship Principles #2 – Finding Play, Humor, Fun, and Lightness – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

132: Core Relationship Principles #2 – Finding Play, Humor, Fun, and Lightness – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

How do you bring playfulness, laughs, and lightness into your relationship? And why is it so important? This is the second episode of our “Core Relationship Principles” series. Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin cover exactly why it’s so important to foster the fun in your relationship, and to not take everything so seriously (even the serious things). We also cover how to jumpstart this energy in those moments when it seems to have disappeared. After listening, you’ll have some practical strategies for having more fun in your relationship.

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131: How Love is Evolving You – Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere

131: How Love is Evolving You – Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere

When you start a relationship, something special becomes possible, something unique that the world has never known before. However – how do you figure out what that “something special” is? And how can your love be a vehicle for actually helping us evolve? This episode is an invitation to you to step into an experience of “shared consciousness” – what happens when you’re able to explore the space created between you and another person. Our guest is Patricia Albere, founder of the Evolutionary Collective and author of Evolutionary Relationships: Unleashing the Power of Mutual Awakening. Patricia has been guiding others on this path for years, exploring the edges of how consciousness shifts when two (or more) people step into it together.

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130: On Valentine’s Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

130: On Valentine’s Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship – with Neil Sattin

Does Valentine’s Day create pressure, or problems, for you? How do you get past the expectation and celebrate love – in your own way – without falling victim to the cliché? And also – on a separate but equally important note – how do you handle uncertainty, in your life, and in your relationship? In today’s episode we’re going to cover strategies for successfully navigating Valentine’s Day whether you’re single or in a relationship – and we’re also going to reveal our top 3 ways to deal with uncertainty, and transform it into something positive. Plus Neil Sattin reveals a bonus “4th way” to use uncertainty in your relationship to create connection with your partner.

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129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple – with Jayson Gaddis

129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple – with Jayson Gaddis

How do you build an indestructible relationship? It’s all about how you welcome the challenges, magnify the good times, and build a web of support. Sometimes that’s easier said than done, though – because the way to do those things wasn’t something that you were taught in school. In today’s episode, we welcome Jayson Gaddis, fellow relationship coach, founder of the Relationship School, and host of The Smart Couple podcast. Jayson shares some of his favorite relationship recipes, so that you can not only collect the right ingredients for your relationship, but also learn the unique way to cook them up into something that will serve your relationship for years to come.

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128: Practical Masculinity: Beyond Stereotypes – with Shana James and Neil Sattin

128: Practical Masculinity: Beyond Stereotypes – with Shana James and Neil Sattin

How do you embody masculinity in a way that creates more connection and passion in your relationship? How do you avoid the stereotypes, while still getting the benefit of positive polarity in your relationship? Is there even a point to talking about “masculine” vs. “feminine” (and if so, what is it?)? Today’s episode is a conversation with Shana James, men’s coach and host of the Man Alive podcast. We take apart the myths of what it means to be a “real man” – and explore how you can get beyond what you’re “supposed to” be, uncover the true you, and bring all of you to your relationship. Learn how to break out of the box in a way that keeps you connected to the people who matter most.

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127: Peter Levine – Building Resiliency in Yourself, Your Relationship, and Your Children

127: Peter Levine – Building Resiliency in Yourself, Your Relationship, and Your Children

One of the most important things that you can develop in your life, and in your relationship, is your resilience – the way that you bounce back from the challenges that life throws your way. How do you recover in a way that leaves you even stronger, more connected, more inspired than before? In today’s episode, we’re talking with Dr. Peter Levine, creator of Somatic Experiencing, author of the bestseller Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma, and co-author, with Maggie Kline, of Trauma-Proofing Your Kids. Peter and I explore exactly how to build your own resiliency – and how to also help your partner, and your kids become more resilient. 

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126: Core Relationship Principles #1: Mutual Support without Codependence – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

126: Core Relationship Principles #1: Mutual Support without Codependence – with Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin

What makes the difference between a mediocre relationship and an amazing one? Your principles. They help you navigate the tough times, and help you excel in the easy times. In this series, Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin discuss these core principles so that you can incorporate them into your own relationship. In this first episode of the series, Chloe and Neil talk about how to move away from the script of what you’re “supposed to do” so that you can find the energy of what is actually happening in your relationship. They also discuss the first principle, which gives you a recipe for how to support your partner in a way that doesn’t invite codependence.

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125: Developing the “Yes Brain” in Yourself and Your Kids – with Dan Siegel

125: Developing the “Yes Brain” in Yourself and Your Kids – with Dan Siegel

When you’re in a “Yes” brain state, everything seems possible – you’re courageous, resilient, and creative. When you’re in a “No” brain state it’s nearly impossible to learn, grow, or interact in a positive way with others. This yes/no brain state impacts everything you do – how you meet the world, and, if you have children, how you show up as a parent. So how do you cultivate a “Yes” brain state in yourself? How do you teach the children in your life to recognize the signs of being in a “No” brain state – and, even better, show them how to shift back into a “Yes” brain? Today we’re talking with Dr. Dan Siegel, founder of interpersonal neurobiology and co-author (along with Tina Payne Bryson) of the new book “The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child.” His strategies for understanding your own reactivity will transform your relationships and your parenting. You can also help the children in your life understand their own emotional world, and show them how to come back online after big emotions get the best of them.

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124: Jealousy – How to Deal and Heal

124: Jealousy – How to Deal and Heal

Does jealousy affect you in your relationship? Or has it impacted you in the past? One thing is for sure, jealousy has a destructive impact on any relationship, leaving both partners feeling unsafe and under attack. So – how do you know what’s really going on when one of you is jealous? And how do you get to the other side, so that you can experience a relationship where you can experience the freedom to be yourself AND the safety of a secure partnership? Whether you’re getting jealous, or on the receiving end of your partner’s jealousy – this episode will lead you through the steps of discovering what’s really going on – and how to reconnect in a healthy way.

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123: Pleasure is the Measure: The Science of Sex and Desire – with Emily Nagoski

123: Pleasure is the Measure: The Science of Sex and Desire – with Emily Nagoski

How do you separate fact from fiction when it comes to creating and sustaining sexual desire? In this episode of Relationship Alive, our special guest is Emily Nagoski, author of the New York Times bestseller “Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.” Her work has been cited by both John Gottman and Esther Perel as a must-read for understanding how desire works, and how to nurture a sexual connection over the long term with your partner. Emily Nagoski and I dispel some modern-day myths about sexuality, and then we reveal some of the new science to help you create more pleasure in your life. And, as Emily says, “Pleasure is the Measure!”

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Podcast Reviews

  • Very helpful!!
    April 15, 2018 by shan96kb from United States

    I love this podcast. I learn something every episode. Thanks Neil!

  • Love your Podcast!!
    April 8, 2018 by Love Your Podcast! from United States

    Thanks so much for all the wonderful therapist on your podcast. You truly are an amazing interviewer and have awesome therapist who truly offer great advise and tangible ways to improve oneself and our most intimate relationships. My significant other and I have enjoyed and grown as a more spiritually evolved couple by listening to your wonderful podcast. We have listened to “ALL” of your podcast. Looking forward to many more 🙂 Thank you again! Hats off to you!! Paola & Alex 💕

  • Excellent resource. Wonderful stuff.
    March 30, 2018 by Richbabe71 from Australia

    I have found this series of podcasts to be a real gem. Neil's approach to interviewing, his guests and the information presented make this an invaluable resource for anyone looking to improve their relationships with their partner and indeed all relationships. It has helped me on many levels and I urge anybody considering downloading to give it a go. I am really grateful it's available.

  • Literally saved my marriage!!!
    February 28, 2018 by The Bint from United States

    This podcast is a treasure trove of relationship advice & resources! No New Age love gurus with gimmicky advice. Every guest has years, even decades of research to back them up. But your relationship doesn't have to be on the rocks in order to benefit from this podcast. The focus of this show is growth, for the individuals & for the relationship. Nearly every episode has mind-blowing revelations & yet when you think about it, it's all very intuitive.

  • Transformative
    February 22, 2018 by RachD315 from United States

    Thank you Neil!